Volunteers

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Registered: 02-20-2007
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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:57pm
I joined a neighborhood mom's group. They coordinate all types of activities for families in the community. Including things like fundraisers, bake sales, potlucks, playgroups, and also fun things for the kids like pictures with santa, the easter bunny, etc. Most are women who do not work outside the home. Some work part time. One of them recently went back to work in a hospital, about 32 hours per week. So she quit doing the volunteer activities but wanted her child to still participate in a few things here & there; one of the moms made a resentful comment about how she wasn't "pulling her weight" and "we work hard to do these things and others (i.e. the working moms) don't pitch in". And now she is worried they might take their negative attitude out on her child as well, so she is withdrawing him from the activities. Is it okay to tell a parent that if they weren't part of the volunteer effort, that their child is no longer welcome to participate? Should one do volunteer work but resent those who don't or can't volunteer, for whatever reason?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 1:34pm

I don't understand your confusion on my question, it seemed to be a pretty typical question in reading the other responses as well, so many of us drew the same conclusion based on the op.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 4:46pm

They don't have a specific rule excluding those who don't volunteer. Its just that some have an attitude that they've worked hard and others who didn't work, are reaping the benefits.

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 4:49pm
Are there opportunities to volunteer behind the scenes, or stuff one could do at home?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 4:57pm

I think it's time they took a good, long look at what "volunteer" means vs. "co-op". They are calling themselves "volunteer organization" but they are behaving like a co-op, which is causing hurt feelings and misunderstanding. I've belonged to many co-ops throughout my life and they work wonderfully BECAUSE everybody knows the rules going in. The rules are: if you want to recieve the benefits, you must spend some time doing the work. When that expectation, a co-op expectation, is out on the table, everybody feels better and there is no misunderstanding.


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 5:27pm

That's life.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-07-2009
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 5:41pm
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Registered: 04-22-2005
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 8:10pm
I totally agree with everything you said. Your potluck analogy also reminds me of something. In grad school, they often held potluck events, and the student advisor would post a sign-up sheet with slots for things like main dish, side dish, salad, bread & spread, beverages, paper plates/cups/napkins, etc. There were also a few slots available for people to sign up to simply contribute $5-10 (for anything that might still be needed). I think it was a really great system. Everyone knew it was potluck, but it didn't exclude people who simply didn't have the time to go shopping or prepare something.
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Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 04-01-2009 - 6:40pm
If this is the case, then they are serving themselves and not the community. Or perhaps they have some fantasy about serving the "deserving poor" rather than the people in their community, who for whatever reason, are not "deserving" in their eyes.
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Registered: 08-25-2008
Wed, 04-01-2009 - 7:31pm

This is what happened to us with Girl Scouts.

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 9:23am

IMO, when one chooses to volunteer, it should be because they really want to help out.

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