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Mon, 03-30-2009 - 11:57pm
I joined a neighborhood mom's group. They coordinate all types of activities for families in the community. Including things like fundraisers, bake sales, potlucks, playgroups, and also fun things for the kids like pictures with santa, the easter bunny, etc. Most are women who do not work outside the home. Some work part time. One of them recently went back to work in a hospital, about 32 hours per week. So she quit doing the volunteer activities but wanted her child to still participate in a few things here & there; one of the moms made a resentful comment about how she wasn't "pulling her weight" and "we work hard to do these things and others (i.e. the working moms) don't pitch in". And now she is worried they might take their negative attitude out on her child as well, so she is withdrawing him from the activities. Is it okay to tell a parent that if they weren't part of the volunteer effort, that their child is no longer welcome to participate? Should one do volunteer work but resent those who don't or can't volunteer, for whatever reason?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 04-03-2009 - 10:25am

I think they can refuse participation, there shouldn't be a legal matter in doing so at least as far the 501(c)(3) status goes, as not all charitable organizations are equipped to be open to all people.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-09-2004
Fri, 04-03-2009 - 9:59am

If you are set up by law as a non-profit organization, particularly if you are set up as a 501(c)(3) organization, you might want to check the legality of refusing participation to someone. This may even go beyond the right and wrong of it and it could become a legal issue.


Aside from the legal issues, I agree with those that say if it is volunteer it is volunteer and if you can't volunteer then your child should

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 7:19pm
Why thank you! :-)
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 7:12pm

< I would also fear that my child would be subject to a lot of negative comments about me and no child needs to be subjected to that kind of negative attitude.>

Same here, I don't want my child bearing the brunt of whatever axe that someone has to grind with me.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 9:42am

wait til your kids start school...you'll make a perfect room mom.

 

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 9:23am

IMO, when one chooses to volunteer, it should be because they really want to help out.

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Registered: 08-25-2008
Wed, 04-01-2009 - 7:31pm

This is what happened to us with Girl Scouts.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 04-01-2009 - 6:40pm
If this is the case, then they are serving themselves and not the community. Or perhaps they have some fantasy about serving the "deserving poor" rather than the people in their community, who for whatever reason, are not "deserving" in their eyes.
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Registered: 04-22-2005
Tue, 03-31-2009 - 8:10pm
I totally agree with everything you said. Your potluck analogy also reminds me of something. In grad school, they often held potluck events, and the student advisor would post a sign-up sheet with slots for things like main dish, side dish, salad, bread & spread, beverages, paper plates/cups/napkins, etc. There were also a few slots available for people to sign up to simply contribute $5-10 (for anything that might still be needed). I think it was a really great system. Everyone knew it was potluck, but it didn't exclude people who simply didn't have the time to go shopping or prepare something.
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Tue, 03-31-2009 - 5:41pm
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