"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2005
She meant "bad" as in "not good at their job" not "bad" as in "corrupt." If I make serious mistakes, I'd be considered bad at my job. And illegal collection of evidence, that allows a guilty man to go free, is not a minor mistake.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
I replied directly to her sentence. If you didn't understand that sorry. I responded correctly...but I can see how you misunderstood it.
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Registered: 06-27-1998

Sorry.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998

No, but she has the ability to dispatch a police officer almost any location or anywhere else.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998

So again, where do you draw the line?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998

Too early for dinner.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-11-2005

Then why claim the man got off on a technicality and blame the defense attorney for harmning the public?

Why not be more accurate and say that the rapist was freed due to police incompetance/police error? What in the world does police error have to do with bad defense attorneys who get people off on "technicalities" anyway? I've never actually considered the constitution a technicality myself.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2005

Yeah well, NEVER doesn't mean NEVER either around here.

Damn. Where'd my memo go on "alternate-meanings-of-simple,-common-words-that-one-uses-only-when-it-fits-one's-argument-and-keeps-one-from-admitting-one-is-wrong"?

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Registered: 06-27-1998

If I make a mistake at my job it can cost a lot of money in fines.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998

If you find yours, I obviously need a copy as well.


PumpkinAngel

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