"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am |
On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.
Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.
My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.
I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?
If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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That is great. Still doesn't change the fact that most people don't.
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Maybe so...but I would argue that political positions yield a very high number of corrupt people. Aren't most political positions held by attorney's? Interesting eh?
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Of course you do. Can you explain it for me? I sah and I never understood that suggestion ~ that I'm allegedly doing it for myself. Are you alleging you understand that someone might sah "solely" for herself? Or just a little for herself and a little for her family?
Are you saying that as soon as these women married these men, they stopped working? Or did most quit only as they had kids? If they quit like most sahms do when they start having kids, I don't see how your theory holds up.
You said your DH sah for a while, but didn't enjoy it. I think there are many men who wouldn't enjoy sah. It doesn't mean their wives are sah because the husbands feel they're being better cared for than the child. As soon as children enter the picture, I think most parents' needs take a back seat whether or not one parent sah. Children have a way of making sure of that.
Actually no .. PNJ was right on.
This, from wikipedia.org, "In politics, federalism is the political philosophy that underlines a system of government in which power is constitutionally divided between a central governing authority and constituent partially self-governing political units (like states or provinces), creating what is often called a federation. The two levels of government are interdependent, and share sovereignty. "
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Go right ahead. While it may be true (and I'm inclined to believe it is), it doesn't negate what I was saying. It isn't a rebuttal to what I posted.
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