"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thank you kindly for the compliment, and the little one's sparkle is devilish most of the time.....

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Registered: 06-27-1998

Exactly and probably why my question of where to draw the line hasn't been answered.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998

<<Yes I would say most men would want their wives to be home.>>


Why and what are you basing this opinion or theory on?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998

I haven't been complaining about the lack of imagination in boys clothes for awhile, let me tell you.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998

FWIW, it doesn't offend me.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998

I would be taking

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998

That's the way to do it.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998

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A perfect example of sah for one's self.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-18-2005
My dh is 36 y.o. and just graduated from his MBA. He has no problem with me being at home. I have 2 degrees now and have no problem with me being at home.
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I think what she is saying and it's what I have been saying all along.....the foundation is not dependent on work or not working.

PumpkinAngel

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