"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am |
On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.
Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.
My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.
I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?
If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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To me they are the same.
PumpkinAngel
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I agree 100% with your statement.
Julia
Julia
Proud Mommy of Macey and Reece
What does "across the board" mean?
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Jennie
Heck no, I dont always do what is best for my kids. My kids dont live in some little bubble where the world revolves around what is best for them - they are part of a family and a community.
And where did I write that I always do what is best? I wrote that I always try to do what is best. I mean why would you not even think about it? Do you always think of yourself first? I think of what is best for the entire family. No, it is not always what is best (I already stated that I quit bf'ng b/c it was best for me) for my children. BUt, I at least try.
And my kids do NOT live in a little bubble and think the world revolves around them. I have very nice, responsible and kind kids. Sorry to burst your bubble...
Jennie
Jennie
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There are so many parents who could care less about how their decisions affect their children. If the worse thing you're being accused of here, is doing what is best for your kids first, I'd say you are doing a very good job of parenting your girls :)
Julia
Edited 1/17/2006 1:52 pm ET by maceymom
Julia
Proud Mommy of Macey and Reece
Jennie
.....and they just might be better kids for it as well?
PumpkinAngel
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