"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am |
On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.
Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.
My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.
I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?
If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Jennie
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No I am not comparing them. She asked me if I could see a difference between my oldest and my two youngest. I told her that you couldn't compare the two because of different circumstances. Yet my 2 younger ones are better across the board. That could be for all sorts of reasons.
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Different circumstances.
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Nope never said that nor did I imply that. So I can't answer that question.
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You just caught up. However I wouldn't say the least is me SAH. You dont even begin to know what the reasons are. I didn't go into it with you. You can speculate...but that is about it.
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Why is your care better than a nanny or DC provider?
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Jennie
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SHe wasn't in an unstable home. I was a very independent smart mom. I worked hard in my field, earned a good living, she went to a great school, and I was very active in her life. However her father was an idiot. He took out his anger he had with me on her. So she didn't see her father until she was almost 8 yrs old. Not having a dad around was hard on her. I have a wonderful older brother that stepped in when she had daddy things at school. Even still...not having a dad is hard on a child. She is in much better shape today than a few years ago...She is seeing the light and knowing what an idiot her dad still is, and that is had nothing to do with her.
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Why is that interesting? I had child out of wedlock. So what? Think conservatives don't have premarital sex? Ok..is it only liberals that do? I find this comment intersting and a bit naive.
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