"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am |
On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.
Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.
My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.
I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?
If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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No I wasn't comparing the two. I was making the statement that it is not really comparable...but I wanted to answer her question. I can't tell you if my younger ones are better because I SAH because there are other factors.
Your child is your child. No one can say that what you experience isn't the way it is in your home. However you can't say your situation should apply to others.
Jennie
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"However her father was an idiot. He took out his anger he had with me on her. So she didn't see her father until she was almost 8 yrs old. Not having a dad around was hard on her."
Having an angry, absentee dad IS having an unstable home.
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Jennie
<<Maybe that's why she can't understand the exhaustion one might feel at the end of a day's work plus commute?>>
Where did I say any of that?
PumpkinAngel
Jennie
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No I didn't.
PumpkinAngel
The question is what is better?
PumpkinAngel
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