"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am |
On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.
Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.
My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.
I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?
If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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I think you're inferring things that she didn't imply.
The nanny is only "working" at caring for the kids 50 hours a week. A SAHM is "working" at caring for the kids over 112 hours a week. That's why (I think) PNJ believes a nanny is less likely to waver than a SAHM. Also becasue if she wavers a time too many, she'll get fired. A SAHM can't be fired.
This is where living in the frozen arctic comes in handy. For 5-6 months out of the year, they are covered head to toe in winter gear. My girls can wear whatever they want, nice dresses etc & I don't have to worry about mud dirt etc. For one, the ground is all covered in snow & ice & two the kids are all covered in snow suits. LOL
I did get a weird call from the nurse last week though. Vanessa went to the nurse & wanted to come home because she had a canker sore. I told her she had to tough it out, the nurse said she was very "insistent" about it. Later I was thinking, this kid is always insistent, it's her nature. She is pretty insistent about everything she wants w/me.
Jennie
Jennie
<<You can find 2 little boys stressful...maybe I wouldn't. See the difference? >>
Actually no I don't see the difference.
PumpkinAngel
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