"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am |
On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.
Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.
My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.
I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?
If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Do we have twins? The afterschool teacher at daycare is always telling me that Sav is her best helper. She's always being praised for how much she helps clean up and straighten and organize.
But her room looks like a tornado hit it.
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I must have misunderstood this statement you made here.
Excuse me?
PumpkinAngel
Jennie
I have one of those children as well, lol.
PumpkinAngel
I think it varies in all sorts of situations. In our case...I worked odd hours and so does my DH. That would have I believe had a negative impact on our family and our children. I think in some cases a parent that hates their job, or hates working can negatviely impact their family and children. Just as another poster on this board stated that she was MISERABLE being at home. She missed working, she cried all day, and was physically ill everyday. She negatviely impacted her family and her marriage. She went back to work and her life stabilized. It goes both ways.
Yes I did compare my 3 children. Yet I also said it wouldn't be a fair comparison given the different circumstances.
That's right, you are the mother in my sentence.
PumpkinAngel
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