"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am |
On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.
Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.
My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.
I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?
If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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....I can see that and would further had that it or them being stressful is not necessarily a negative thing either.
PumpkinAngel
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So you SAH so you don't have to commute?
Jenna
Karen
"We are told that in , "cattle and sheep outnumber people by the millions." Which is why we're here, I suspect, given that cattle and sheep don't post spoilers on the internet, or if they do, they all just say things like, "Moo moo moo, moo! MMM! Moooo, moo. MMMMM, moo
Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, The Amazing Race Finale
Karen
"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't
<> How can you not find that a sad statement?
<> That's great that she has absolutely no life of her own, no troubles with family relations or friends, no fights with her girlfriend and never, ever brings those issues with her to her job, never has insomnia, never touches a drop of alcohol at night with friends at a bar. How exactly did you screen for all of these qualities?
And how could you possibly know what went on during the day with your pre-verbal children when you were not there? Do you have a nannycam?
If she's so great at discipline, shouldn't that carry over into the time you're with your children? You've described on this board several issues you have with disciplining your sons.
Huh? You just defeated your own argument. You were a nanny and still didn't know how to handle an infant.
I'm certain nannies make children nap on a schedule and discipline them so that the child's day goes more smoothly.
Edited 1/19/2006 7:40 am ET by tinderbox3
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