"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am |
On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.
Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.
My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.
I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?
If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Do you not believe in trust?
PumpkinAngel
<<And I've never once heard anyone say they sah for themselves and don't take care of their kids! >>
I haven't either,
PumpkinAngel
****Do you not believe in trust?****
Sure I think you should trust your nanny. But in reality how do you know what your nanny is doing during the day unless you have a nanny cam? I mean I have seen the videos of nanny's harming children, and the children's parents trusted them. So really unless you have a camera you really don't *know* what is going on.
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Are you saying that if you worked that you wouldn't have the energy or desire to have your children as involved in activities?
PumpkinAngel
<<<> How can you not find that a sad statement?>>
What's sad about it? There are many instances in which I or dh aren't the best provider for our kids. Neither one of us are qualified to teach music to our kids. Or gymnastics. Or lead a GS troop. I'm certainly not qualified to correct dd's speech delay. I'm not qualified to teach ds how to read.
...or the fact that the person you are debating with, actually is paid to do a job more hours a week
PumpkinAngel
Post 1546 You said
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I don't get it? I said..Her father was angry and absent from our home. So our home wasn't unstable. Having a home with an absentee and angry father would be unstable. I know what absentee means. You still didn't back up your statement that she grew up in an unstable home.
Karen
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Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, The Amazing Race Finale
Karen
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