"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 01-13-2006
i think alot of times people other than parents are better qualified to distinguish when a problem arises. how many times have you heard "we just didnt notice" i think alot of it comes from parents being around a child so much that they dont see certain things or they just take them as what is normal for that child, when in fact they are issues that can be addressed. i have a friend who has a 4 year old who in my unprofessional opinion may have speech issues (my 2 year old talks better than he does and is easier to understand) but it is her son and she thinks he is just fine. my guess is that it will be caught when he starts school by a non-parent, unless of course he outgrows it, which is what i hope happens.
Jennie
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Registered: 01-18-2006
No. But stealing and waivering on disciplining a child from taking a cookie out of the cookie jar are different issues.

 

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So again, what is best?

PumpkinAngel

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I don't know.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
A court can't deny biology. I was being sort of out there with that post. She threw in the technical thing.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
No, apparently ahlmommy doesn't ever waver in discipline according to her post in this thread.

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ROFLOL


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-18-2006
That might work for you. Just not for me. I think that goes into way too much to deal with for me. I just think situations arise and I would rather just handle it then delegate it. I am lucky that I can leave my work and pick right back up. I am sure in your profession that is not so easy. Not to mention SAH may be not be your thing. I don't know.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998

Of course they do, but we aren't talking about all things, we are talking about one specific thing.


There is not one specific

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-18-2006
I agree with you totally.

 

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