"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 03-26-2003

<<< didn't say you had a BUSINESS. I said you WAH.>>>

Really?

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-pssahwoh&msg=16497.415

***So how's the WAH business?***

I am not getting hostile...Just wondering why you are so confused? Maybe you are tired?

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Registered: 05-01-2003
Why do you equate Hot Button to Hostile? I don't think of it that way at all. Hot Button implies sensitivity; Hostile implies anger. IMO.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Scroll back into the thread...You are lost again. It was a hypothetical. Confusion has gotten the better of you tonight. You are trying so hard to hit a *hot button* when all you are doing to confusing yourself.
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Registered: 03-26-2003

Hey, feel free to tell me directly and honestly that your DH spends more than one hour per weekday with his children on a normal, non-summer week and I'll go right ahead.


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"The lawyers on this board could learn from you (but they won't!)"


Oh, don't be so hard on yourself.

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Registered: 03-26-2003

"We've already established in another debate that Felicia is in no position whatsoever to hire lawyers or decide who is and who is not fit to work for her company."


MEOW.

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Registered: 05-01-2003
That's for sure, I can vouch for that!
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Registered: 12-29-2004
So how are you not a WAHM?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
How old are you?

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