"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 05-01-2003
It can be, though. It is called home daycare.
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Registered: 03-26-2003

Oh, I don't like to brag.


Why sniping at me today?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Again...scroll back in the thread...SHe asked me how my business was. Not my status.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Where I live to qualify for Home Daycare...one must care for more than 1 child and have a separate room in that home for that daycare, AND be inspected 3 times per year. So again...I am not a business.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
ROFLMAO. Ya think!?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
She's tired I think.


Edited 1/10/2006 10:09 pm ET by ahlmommy
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Registered: 12-29-2004
So what? You said you're not a WAH. But I think maybe you are.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
You tell me first.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Now that was funny. The whole MEOW thing wasn't.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Do you think her posts to me in this thread are gratuitous or add to the debate?

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