"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 03-26-2003

She and I have our own little relationship that you're not privy to.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Ok gotcha! Hey..Me first? I asked you first. LMAOROF
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Registered: 03-25-2003
I didn't ask you how *your* business was. I asked how *the WAH business* was. Meaning, your WAH job. Just like I work in "the telecommunications business."
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Registered: 03-25-2003
You're right. You're not a "business." But you work. At home. For pay. And pay taxes. Therefore, you WAH.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
It's a lame argument that limps along on semantics alone. Forget the question of business or not a business. Point is you're a WAH. So if you say you SAH to raise your kid, then in your case it's not quite as you represented.
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Registered: 05-01-2003
Ok, but in my state the laws are 'up to' 6 kids not more than 1 kid. So unless lauren knows what state you are in, it is an easy assumption to make.
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Registered: 02-11-2005
bwah.
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Registered: 02-11-2005
was she talking to you? i think tb3 has just as much right to argue with another attorney as others here have a right to pick their own feed and assaults.....hint.
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Registered: 02-11-2005
the grasping at straws assault again? boy...what sensitivity. i'll try to keep i sah, i raise my child away from you 'kay lauren?
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Registered: 02-11-2005
lol....i read obits too and i'm not looking for a cheap apartment. i read it after my top pick, wedding announcements, are looked at on sunday mornings.


Edited 1/10/2006 10:50 pm ET by mom3texas

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