"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am |
On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.
Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.
My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.
I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?
If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Actually no. Unemployed means, primarily, that one is involuntarily out of work. That one has been previously employed and is no longer and that one wants to be employed but isn't. "Un" and "Not" are not antonyms.
un·em·ployed ( P ) Pronunciation Key (nm-ploid, -m-)
adj.
Out of work, especially involuntarily; jobless.
Not being used; idle.
n. (used with a pl. verb)
People who are involuntarily out of work considered as a group. Used with the.
When economists figure the unemployement rate, they do not include those that are voluntarily not working. The unemployement rate does not include the retired, the SAHMs, and others who don't want to work. They only include those that are involuntarily out of work. That's the definition of unemployed. From wikipedia, "In economics, a person who is able and willing to work yet is unable to find a paying job is considered unemployed."
So, to clarify further ... you are a SAHM. Charlesmama is a SAHM. If I lost my job today and were home, I would be unemployed.
Doh!
I need caffeine.
While I wish it was, it's not exactly a "luxury" to just have me and my son to worry about. I would love to have help with him, love to have a caring husband, but I don't. It's not all great when there are just two to worry about. I have to do everything myself. Cook, clean, bathe my son, grocery shopping, pay bills, take my car to get it tunes, ect. Things that many of ya'll DHs do. Granted, I'm sure ya'll *usually* have the kiddos, but be thankful there is someone there to give you a helping hand with other things.
My son has Optic nerve hypoplasia (his optic nerve did not develop correctly during pregnancy)in his left eye. I have to patch his right eye every day to strengthen is left one, and teach him to use what little vision he has in that eye. I have a hard time with him during that two hours, he gets so irritated that he can't see (who can blame him), I can't imagine having a child that I would have a constant battle with.
Yes, you need those skills to be an effective lawyer. And legal assistants work with lawyers, and must be able to understand them as well. Funny, how you extrapolate some things to their completely illogical conclusions, but for other things you must be spoon fed.
You still haven't shown me where I said that you are a lawyer.
If you notice, my posts are usually made in a time cluster--such as over lunch--or before my billing day starts--or when I have a spurt of unexpected down time--or on the weekend when I'm not working.
And of course I'd never bill anyone for personal time. That you'd suggest it makes me seriously question your ethics. Do you typically go around asking people if they cheat and steal, or do only I get that?
When you had an employer, did you typically steal from them?
I'm lucky with eating as well.
PumpkinAngel
No, I haven't read that....I will go and check it out...
I do have some benefits, just not all benefits.
PumpkinAngel
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