"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 08-22-2005

If you give into your children's every whims, then I feel sorry for you, they will be hell on wheels.

Really? When? In 15 years when he's 38? 20 years when he's 43? Just *when*, exactly, is this whole prediction of doom of yours supposed to occur.

Karen


"We are told that in , "cattle and sheep outnumber people by the millions." Which is why we're here, I suspect, given that cattle and sheep don't post spoilers on the internet, or if they do, they all just say things like, "Moo moo moo, moo! MMM! Moooo, moo. MMMMM, moo


Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, The Amazing Race Finale

Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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Would you also consider the preschool that you youngest attends to be taking a part in raising your dd?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-22-2005
:::snort:::: I weep. ;)

Karen


"We are told that in , "cattle and sheep outnumber people by the millions." Which is why we're here, I suspect, given that cattle and sheep don't post spoilers on the internet, or if they do, they all just say things like, "Moo moo moo, moo! MMM! Moooo, moo. MMMMM, moo


Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, The Amazing Race Finale

Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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Registered: 05-01-2003

You don't have a teen yet, that's why.

I have 2 very well-behaved teens, BUT it is impossible to know where they are at all times. IMPOSSIBLE. Not reality.

I can see knowing where they are MOST time, but not ALL times.

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Registered: 11-22-2005
My son is in home daycare (love it, BTW). She has a seperate room for the kids, has five kids, and is licensed by the state, and is inspected. One child does not qualify as a "home daycare".
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So then my

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Finally, someone who understands what I am saying!
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edited at alhmommy's request


Edited 1/11/2006 12:12 pm ET by goddess_lonestarmom
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Wow, you worked how many years in a dishonest practice? Personally, I wouldn't do that for a day. It goes against what I believe in.

edited to take out what mom2megandemily found offensive




Edited 1/11/2006 3:34 pm ET by goddess_lonestarmom
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Yes, you did.

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