"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
"I never claimed (and quote where I stated) that I knew the entire legal profession."

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Bwhahahahaha....Which helmet? Theirs or mine?
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Registered: 08-22-2005
don't complain to me, I'm not the one who wrote Texas laws that way. Texas LAW defines a "home daycare" as 12 or fewer kids. I'm sure they'll be all kinds of joyful to know you consider Texas law to be nothing much to worry about.

Karen


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Registered: 03-26-2003
You clearly stated BUSINESS...Again I don't own a business nor do I run one. Next time use the correct words.
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Yes, I know that. I am really not as dumb as you keep portraying me (which I always find that people who do that just want to make themselves feel better). I also said I worked for SEVERAL attorneys. They were not all med mal attorneys either. I worked for a personal injury attorney, defense attorney, property damage attorney, etc. I also stated that my view was limited from my experience.
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Registered: 11-03-2005

It's not about wanting others to conform to my rules.

It's about wanting to have a conversation in which we are all speaking the same languages. How can two or three or 44 people have effective communication, if they all have different meanings of words? How can it be an effective, efficient exchange of ideas if 7-8 people have the same definitions and one has a different one? How can those other 7-8 have any inkling of what that one means when that person is using words in a completely different context?

But, if you don't want to have an effective, efficient conversation, and don't wish to be understood, then don't conform.

<< Don't like it...don't respond to my posts.>>

And please, don't act as if you are my mother.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Maybe she isn't a home daycare provider? Maybe she's a Nanny? My older one's first daycare provider was a neighbor who watched him three days a week when I first went back to work. I thought of it more as a nanny-type situation even though it was at her house because it was one-on-one. Later on she expanded to a more professional kind of home daycare.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
What is wrong with that? Not what I want to do.....but what's the problem if that is what she wants to do? You want to lawyer til you keel over?
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Registered: 11-18-2005
I did not condemn the WHOLE profession. What I stated was that after working for several years as a paralegal, I did not like the legal profession at all. Maybe it is jsut my area. maybe other areas have more honest attorneys. I have no idea and I do not care. It was not for me at all.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
No it kills you that I do.

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