"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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I think you are using it at the moment.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-18-2005

Quote me on where I stated the WHOLE legal profession is dishonest. That every single attorney is dishonest!

Here, I will even copy my post....now where does it say I was talking about the whole legal profession???????????

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Edited 1/11/2006 11:05 am ET by mom2megandemily
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correct.
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Registered: 08-22-2005

Silly. Don't you know that single WOHMs are the Preferred Victims To Be Pitied? How dare you suggest anything you do is harder than anything we do? Our lives are inherently more tragic because *WE HAD NO CHOICE* and you did.

Karen


"We are told that in , "cattle and sheep outnumber people by the millions." Which is why we're here, I suspect, given that cattle and sheep don't post spoilers on the internet, or if they do, they all just say things like, "Moo moo moo, moo! MMM! Moooo, moo. MMMMM, moo


Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, The Amazing Race Finale

Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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Registered: 11-03-2005

From post 589:

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Registered: 11-22-2005
I wasn't lashing out at anyone, getting annoyed with Karen, because she jumped into the conversation blind, but lash? No. Sorry if it came off that way.
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Registered: 11-03-2005

OMG you slay me!

YOu say:

---Here, I will even copy my post....now where does it say I was talking about the whole legal profession???????????

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How do the words "I was talking about the legal profession as a whole." not mean you were talking about the whole legal profession?

Thanks for the laugh. I really needed it this morning!

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Registered: 11-18-2005
But, did I say the word dishonest there? No. I was talking about me not liking to work in the legal profession as a whole. Not one specific attorney like the poster suggested I stated. I was clarifying what she stated about me.
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It's a question that I have asked more than once and have never really gotten an answer outside of well there is a big difference between an infant and a 5 year old.

PumpkinAngel

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Well I can only speak for myself. I have never said it isn't acceptable for anyone not to take their children to DC. I have clearly stated that I SAH to raise my children. When my children are small I want to care for them, and not take them to a DC. I don't want to miss those first steps or first words, etc. My children grow up, and during which time the strings begin to be cut. When I think it is time for preschool then another string is cut. I feel that my children should be home with me full time until they start preschool. At which point I start them and move them up gradually with time. That way when they start school they will not be in shock for the long day. It is just how I think it should be done. Why is that so hard to understand?

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I am not stopping at age 5. It is just cutting another string. I have never said there is anything wrong with someone else raising your children. I have just clearly stated to you that I want to be the one here full time with them until they are older. It is my way, they are my children...no one can tell another what is best for themselves. You equate me saying I want to SAH to raise my children as some sort of slam to you. I will say it again...It isnt about you OR your working status. It is about me and my family.

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