"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 06-27-1998

In 519 you stated:

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-18-2005

But, I stated more than once that "legal profession as a whole" from MY LIMITED experience.

And please, the way people generalize sah/woh on here you have got to be kidding me!

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Registered: 08-22-2005

Post #300, written by me, to you: "I've been a single WOHM for 23+ years now...."

And by the way, you can lay off the constant whining about how I allegedly haven't read the whole thread, simply because you didn't see me posting on it all day.

Karen


"We are told that in , "cattle and sheep outnumber people by the millions." Which is why we're here, I suspect, given that cattle and sheep don't post spoilers on the internet, or if they do, they all just say things like, "Moo moo moo, moo! MMM! Moooo, moo. MMMMM, moo


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Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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Whatever. Feel better now??? Was I specific enough for you now??
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Registered: 03-26-2003

"I bet he has twisted the truth just a bit to allow that criminal to walk."


Where do you get off defaming her DH?

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Registered: 06-27-1998

So since others are helping you raise your children and you are helping to raise another child....Perhaps you should redefine your statement that you sah to raise your children?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-22-2005
A mistake that resulted in my son being born. No one's fault but mine, and I will never claim it to be anyone's BUT mine. I knew it would be hard when I made the decission to have my son, and I am happy with the decission I made. Kaden's father asked me to marry him, I said no, I tend to not want to be married to a man who looks down on women, think men are superior, and push women around. It's amazing how much a man can fool you into thinking he's a great man, then when he thinks he has you for good, really shows his true colors. He pays no child support, regardless of the court order, and has nothing to do with his son, and I am happier that way. Kaden has too many good male role models in his life to have a sour apple thrown in there.
I too, will probably have my kids far apart, but that will be my decission as well. As of now, I don't want anymore kids, but it could change.
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Registered: 03-26-2003

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I did miss those things. I was a WAHMFT when my oldest was a baby. HEr first steps were at her sitters home. THe child I care for now...He walked for the first time here with me. So yes I do think that is a great possiblity. Yes he does miss those things. So are you saying because he does so should I?

<<< Good because no one else is raising anyone else's children. We are all raising our own. SAH or WOH. Mom or Dad.>>>

I disagree. I help raise this little boy I care for. My son's teacher is helping raise my son. My youngest preschool teacher is helping raise her. If you think your DC provider doesn't help you raise your child then ok.

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Registered: 03-26-2003

Your writing isn't clear.

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Registered: 11-11-2005

Here you go:

In post 519, you stated: "I ran from the legal field as fast as I could. I could not take the dishonesty another day."

To which I replied, in post 570: "Wow, you worked how many years in a dishonest practice?"

To which you replied:in post 589: "I was talking about the legal profession as a whole. Did I say that it was the practice I worked for?? No!"

How is that not you calling the legal profession as a whole dishonest?

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