"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am |
On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.
Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.
My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.
I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?
If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Again, based on what?
PumpkinAngel
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Are you kidding me? No, I DO get that. YOU do not get that. You stated about racist cops exactly what I stated about the legal profession but bashed me. YOU stated that b/c I stated "legal profession as a whole" I must have meant every attorney.
So, logically, you must mean every cop is a racist.
To help people put their lives back together and keep their lives together. To be able to work in criminal law, without having to work under the buffoons at the Dallas County DA's office. (He interned for them and they offered him a job, but he'd rather be unemployed than have to work under an office run by Bill Hill. It is notoriously corrupt) To be able to have the job flexibility to be home with the kids after school. To be in control of his own career.
I could go on. He helps a lot of people, he is not corrupt, and I take it that you have a very narrow view of what goes on in a criminal courthouse.
Calm down.
PumpkinAngel
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There you go with that word ACCEPTABLE. You are confusing yourself with your own thoughts that this is about you. Let me put it to you this way. Is it ok to allow your 1 yr old to walk next door without supervision and watch tv with his friend? At 1 yr you wouldn't allow that...but you would at say 15? Things I let my son do now I didn't even think of when he was little. IS that easier for you?
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Again they are growing up. I am just sick of repeating myself. THis is getting so old.
This is all repetitive stuff. I am not going to sit here all day and do this with you again. Don't you have work to do? I know that this little boy is about to wake up and we have a ton of things to do today. I will say what I think it correct for my situation and you can say what you like. You get it...you just don't want to.
You are not paid to do a job?
PumpkinAngel
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No they don't. The reinforce the morals and values that I, and their father, have instilled. They also reinforce societal standards (such as don't hit Bobby).
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HIs mother doesn't do that?
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