"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 11-18-2005

OMG< do people read on this board or is this jsut a way to relieve stress?

This is too funny. I will explain one last time for ya. Goddessmom assumed I was morally bankrupt b/c I worked for a dishonest attorney.
I stated that the attorney i worked for (the last and only one) was not dishonest. I had more than one job. I have worked for dishonest attorneys and left. Also, the firm I was in (not the specific attorney I was assigned to) had many dishonest attorneys.

Clear enough?

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Registered: 06-27-1998

Amazing, isn't it?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Again...I think you are confused. I havent been here over the years.
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Registered: 06-27-1998

So you aren't providing care during the day in your home for money?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Show where where I said you must mean every attorney.
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Registered: 11-18-2005
No, I will not calm down. I would have calmly explained if someone didn't call me morally bankrupt instead of asking me for clarification.
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Registered: 11-03-2005
No, she means that "as a whole" cops are more racist than other profession. That does not mean every cop is racist.
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Registered: 11-22-2005
WOOHOO!!!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Goddess posted that she thinks as a whole cops are racist. What is your take on that? OH yeah..you gonna report her for my personal attack? I didn't see you with the mean face at her for calling me and my DH crooked....nor did she apologize. I will wait.
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....and I have asked you more than one time, what are you basing it on?

PumpkinAngel

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