"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Now come on.. you can't go off on Felicia when Tinderbox is being flat out nasty.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Good luck with that one, new mom.
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I think they may be being a little tough on you here....the idiom "as a whole" does not mean the same thing as "wholly." Like, in the last Harry Potter movie, I hated the way Dumbledore was portrayed, but the acting on the whole was very good....it means "for the most part," right? So you have found the legal profession, "for the most part" is corrupt?

You're still a WAHM though. Can't see any way around that.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
By controlling his life and every minute of it, you're demanding almost nothing of him. People who expect a lot from their kids allow them to make their own decisions and make their own mistakes in age appropriate ways.
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Some people on this board and another board, yes I do care what they think about me.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-12-2003
You can call yourself whatever you want... but according to the definitions that are most commonly used, rather than ones you make up yourself, you really are a WAHM. You do something for pay at home and you are a mother. Even if you were quilting after your kids go to sleep and sell them on ebay, you would be a WAHM.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
No I don't find the whole legal profession corrupt. I just do not think as a whole that defense attorney's are truthful. She stated that cops as a whole are racist, and that the ones in her area lie. To think a defense attorney doesn't lie through his teeth to get his client off but call it twisting the truth doesn't happen on a daily basis is naive. I can honestly say that my DH nor any cop we know has been in IA. He doesn't have a reason to lie about what he does. His objective is to get the criminal. HE puts his life on the line daily to protect people. Defense attorneys jobs are to get those guys off or lessen their sentence. SHe says she has stories...BOY OH BOY do I have my own.
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Registered: 11-22-2005
Okay, there are so many dang threads that I'm lost...good luck with what? Just a question...not meaning to be rude.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Hey, maybe you should opt out of this one, considering you make up your own personal definition for almost every single word, much less the SAH/WAH/WOH "labels".
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Registered: 03-26-2003

"I just do not think as a whole that defense attorney's are truthful."


You do realize that the role of defense attorneys is, in part, to protect people wrongly accused of crimes? Or would your DH defend himself if caught in an IA sting?




Edited 1/11/2006 12:13 pm ET by peteynjoeysmom

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