"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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| Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am |
On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.
Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.
My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.
I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?
If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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my goodness, another message board ephiphany!
>>?" Because kids only stay little for a short time. <<
would you believe that's the same reason why sahms stay home?
I believe it's called perspective.
PumpkinAngel
You are right. I get people stating to me *all* the time "How can you take care of sick people" or "I do not have the stomach for that work". Like I have the most disgusting job in the world. Or I get the comments about how doctors just use people as guinea pigs.
I had bad experiences working with attorneys. My last attorney told me when I was pregnant "I hope you are not breastfeeding b/c I am not going to keep giving you breaks". Yes, it has left a really bad taste in my mouth for attorneys. But, I do not doubt there are good, committed attorneys out there.
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No, she didn't. She stated that as a whole, the law enforcement profession is more racist than other professions.
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Exactly. Did I say all defense attorneys? Nope.
Okie..that is really ridiculous. She stated that since I was working for a dishonest attorney I "was on a different moral plane". How she could never work for someone dishonest.
Are you seriously telling me she was not attacking me? Come on! That was a very sad attempt.
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