"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2005
It, imo, wasn't your statement you were repeatedly called to task on, but your inability to comprehend that you actually made the statement.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998

I did a quick search, you have posts over 2 years old (dating from 5/03).

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-11-2005
lol....the choice of sahm is much safer than the other side. here anyway.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2005

I can agree with that ..

but of course, i'm compelled to debate too! What Miss Elizabeth taught wasn't a moral or value, imo.

Also, religious instructors are a far cry from dc providers or teachers. If i had my child in religious instruction, I would definitely feel they were instilling morals and values.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998

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Are you saying that some people don't deserve defense attorneys?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-18-2005

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I guess some of us just live on a different moral plane.>>>>

It was not a personal attack? How?

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No, it was the fact that people misjudged my statement, made a really mean personal attack and ran with it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-11-2005
i'd love to get successful at the knack of ebaying....but doing it in the comforts of my own chair, my own space and time, would still allow me the privledge of sahm. ;)
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
I read them too.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
You do get it that "they're only little once" explains nothing at all? Maybe it does for you, but not if we're talking logic.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998

....they are also only any age once.

PumpkinAngel

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