"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
Well, you took it the wrong way. And this whole board is snarky. You asked me if I would defend you and I answered.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2005

No. Not the same thing.

If all other professions were 1% racist, then to be "more racist as a whole" cops would only have to be 2% racist. It wouldn't mean ALL cops are racist or that the whole profession was racist. Just that they are MORE racist than others ...

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Registered: 11-12-2003
LOL.. Well, they are internet classes, and they don't have a waitlist like regular classes for some reason. I just keep checking several times a day and see if anyone's dropped it. It ticks me off, because I'm sure that most of the people who signed up can actually GO to classes this semester, and I can't.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005

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Nope. If I thought her implications were unjustified, I would. What goes around, comes around.




Edited 1/11/2006 1:27 pm ET by mom2megandemily
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
Still waiting for you to tell me how her post was not a personal attack? I quoted for you in the last post.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-03-2005
Nah .. I still go with "reinforcing" not "instilling" because when the dc provider says it it wont' be the first time my child hears it. They would have been preached it from a much earlier age.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
When your first post ever contains "I deal with the real world, not some cushiony, wait until junior wakes up then I'll get up and do everything at my own pace world.", followed be "To think that staying at home with children is harder than having to report to people at a certain time, have things done by a dead line, ect, probably means you are one of the many mombies who children now control your every move. ", you probably are getting what you give.
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Registered: 06-27-1998

No, actually you haven't, at least not with any clarity that I understood.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Yeah, but preaching it to the kid and having it finally click are two different things. Sometimes separated by YEARS. I'm still having the lightbulb go on about things my grandmother tried to instill in me forty years ago. Or was it reinforce. Anyway.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998

Maybe I did, but perhaps we should wait for her clarification and not yours, since after all it is her post and not yours?


As to this board being snarky.....people in glass houses really shouldn't throw stones you know.

PumpkinAngel

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