"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998

Nope, hadn't yet.


PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-16-2005
What qualifications does one need in America to state an opinion? Um, none. First semester Constitutional Law - you must have skipped that day.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-16-2005

I agree. You never said that! Maybe you thought it though based on the lawyers here on this board.

I wonder which lawyers who lurk and post here day in and day out, hour after hour, tell their employers to deduct that personal time from their wages? How very honest of these lawyers here, huh!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
As long as the lawyers are honest in their billing -- and I would assume that they are -- and their employers are happy with their billings and work product, why would their employers care that they spend time on the internet? Where is the dishonesty?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
And not all lawyers even bill time.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-16-2005
<> Amen! It does get funny, doesn't it!
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-16-2005
<> OMG, you don't even know the half of it! She will continue for days saying you never answered a single question. Just wait.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005

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Yep. I am starting to believe that.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2005
If I remember correctly, isn't it that defense attorneys bill time but Plaintiff attorney do not? Just curious.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998

I see that you have nothing substantial to add to the debate.

PumpkinAngel

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