"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Depends on the case and the agreement with the client. Sometimes plaintiff cases are done contingency, but not always. And plaintiff class action attorneys still have to keep track of their hours, because the judge will award them money based in part upon how much work they have done. Same with some statutory attorneys fee awards. There's a lot of variation.
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Registered: 07-16-2005
Sometimes it can be. But you're right this particular thread has devolved into nastiness and has turned into an unfair dogpile involving you and Ahlmommy.
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Registered: 03-26-2003

When I lose track, I go to the top of the post, where it says, "XXXX.XXX in response to XXXX.XXX" If you click on the second number, it takes you back through the thread.

I was responding to this:

"Until my son is an adult, he IS under my control, point blank. Some people on this board misunderstood what I was trying to say, or perhaps, I explained wrong. That is no reason for you to jump in and start bashing me, is it? Before you start bashing, ask questions, as did the other posters."

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Registered: 07-16-2005

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Taking one phone call between 9:40 am and 12:30 (and spending the rest of the time on this board) constitutes "work"? Interesting job.

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Registered: 07-16-2005
And Felicia's not being nasty?
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Registered: 11-18-2005

I am just as guilty of being on here way too much the last two days. I think pretty much everyone is guilty of too much computer time on this thread.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
You were nasty first. I just found it funny that mom3texas slammed Felicia when she was responding to a nasty comment by you.
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Registered: 06-27-1998

How about adding something to the debate then?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-16-2005

Read last night's messages from her to Mom2M&E. Nasty, ugly stuff.

Heck, read the entire last 12 months where Felicia claims my DH is an absentee Dad because he works long hours! LOL.

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Registered: 06-27-1998

This adds to the debate, how?

PumpkinAngel

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