"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 06-27-1998

Hey, lets debate!


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-16-2005
I am certain everyone is fully aware of how nasty she and Goddess are being to you. They like a good pile-on when a newbie (like yourself ?) shows up on the scene. You may be gone tomorrow, but the regulars here want to stick around everyday and gain the support and internet "friendship" of the regulars here. (I make every effort not to make friends here!) The anonymity of the board allows some of the regulars to be completely dishonest and hide behind insults. There's a lot going on you don't know about. Don't get addicted. Get out while you still can!!
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Registered: 11-12-2003
LOL... Well we agree on that point, although I doubt we agree on who those people are.
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Registered: 11-11-2005

Since M3T is a WOHM, and since she mentioned choosing sides, I assume she'd side with us. Well, not you, since you SAH, but with those of us on the board who WOH. I just don't know what to do if, say, you and I were to agree. Then whose side do people pick.

BTW--I'm being totally tongue in cheek here.

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Registered: 03-26-2003

Why are you calling me dishonest when you don't know what my employer's policies on Internet usage during working hours is?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Ah another personal attack.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Please cite each and every post in which I was nasty to you.

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Registered: 11-03-2005

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5yos aren't taught religious values? Surely those differ ...

Everything else you explain in your post is, imo, "reinforcing" ... not "instilling." I realize my use of the word may differ from a dictionary definition, but that's the only way I'm able to explain it to myself, much less others. I do think teachers/ccps/etc have a role in morals/values, but they don't *decide* which ones are taught. I know, for certain, that several of ds/dd's ccp have had differing moral and religious values than I. They didn't (and can't) choose to teach those to my children. That's my realm.

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Registered: 03-26-2003

"...(I make every effort not to make friends here!)..."


You're really excellent at that.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
No, Felicia, it's not a personal attack. She just told you she is working toward the goal of not making any friends here. I'd say she deserves congratulations, wouldn't you? It gets a little wierd here. Like in the credit card debate, here I am going on for days about how it's better to stay out of debt and pay your balance off every month, and I find I am debating with a person who is worried about keeping her credit card company happy. Sometimes you just gotta step back and examine the premises, you know?

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