"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 06-27-1998

Please re-read the message from both Laura and Kathi and let's stick to the debate.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Did civics classes go the way of geography? Most US citizens can't find their state on a map, and apparently none of them have the slightest clue about how our government is formed.

Karen


"We are told that in , "cattle and sheep outnumber people by the millions." Which is why we're here, I suspect, given that cattle and sheep don't post spoilers on the internet, or if they do, they all just say things like, "Moo moo moo, moo! MMM! Moooo, moo. MMMMM, moo


Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, The Amazing Race Finale

Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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Registered: 06-27-1998

My oldest son in fourth grade is learning about each region of the country, the states in that region, some of the basic history of the area, main resources, capitals of the states....so all is not lost, lol.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-09-2003

What's even worse, when I lived in Alaska and worked in the tourism indusrty, I was actually asked what country is Alaska in, and what is the currency. These questions were asked to me by Americans as well. SHEESH

Julia

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Proud Mommy of Macey and Reece

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Registered: 11-22-2005
I never claimed lying was respectful, I just know that there are many worse ways to disrespect a parent. I guess I'm thinking along the lines of lying as telling mom I'm going to a movie, but I'm really going to a party, when I was in High school. Not talking about, "no ma, I didn't kill that guy, I swear." I think we will have to agree to disagree that back talk is more disrespectful. I see how some kids talk to their parents today, and I literaly cringe. I would hear how some of my friends faught with their parents, talked back, told them no, ect, and would stand there thinking, jimminy cricket, my little butt would be grounded for an eternity if I talked that way to my mom or dad. I never saw any "real" communication with back talk, just a lot of yelling and no problems being resolved, but that's just me, maybe you view it differently, this is my OPINION! I just know that I did lie a few times as a teenager, but I did respect my parents. I never lied to them about things that would get me hurt or in trouble, or about things that were illegal. My mom was perfectly aware that her "little angel"(riiiight) smoked weed for a while, her response? Don't call me to bail your butt out of jail if you get caught (I was 18-19). I don't know, I guess you're just not getting what I'm trying to say, and I obviously am not explained right.
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I understand far more about the faith now than I did five years ago. I hope and expect that I will understand far more in another five years. Kids are no different. Jesus wanted us to be more like them -- I guess he had a pretty high respect for the faith of children.
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Registered: 11-22-2005
No, but please do explain. I am truly curios, please don't take this as me being un-kind to you.
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Registered: 11-22-2005
I know that...why in the world are people on this board so dang sarcastic? I meant, I find it interesting that laws with something as simple as daycare ratios can vary so much, state by state. I know what it's called, I just stated I find it INTERESTING.
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Registered: 11-22-2005
Yes ma'am!
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Registered: 05-01-2003
Wow 12 kids! Massachusetts laws are 6 kids to 1 provider w/only 2 allowed to be under 24 months.

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