"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2005
I can find my state quite well on a map. Heck I can even draw it without looking at a map. I know how our government, national and state, is formed, and runs. I simply stated I find it interesting, what in the world is so wrong with that that you had to reply to something, harshly, that had nothing to do with you? I am intersted in something, god help us all!
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Registered: 03-26-2003

Oh, I'm sure you can look it up on WebMD.

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Registered: 02-11-2005
how is your FAITH relative to my post related to RELIGION. at all? what my child knows about religion now is much more than what she knew and grasped in k.....you can chose to believe that or not believe that.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Oh, sorry, misunderstood your post.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003

FIVE infants????

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Do you think faith and religion are related, or totally separate and distinct?

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Registered: 06-27-1998

If I read it right, she was agreeing with you.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Once again, I find this interesting. It shows what a truly free country we really are. For there to be laws within a nation, within a state, within a city, within a county, and even (while not laws) certain restrictions within a subdivision.
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Registered: 12-29-1999

Yes. You are wrong. Infertility is defined as 12 mths of trying w/o a pregnancy (unless you're over 35, then after 6 mths of trying you should see a specialist). Pregnancy #1 was ectopic. 11 mths later, pg #2 resulted in a miscarriage. 11 mths after that w/the help of fertility drugs, I conceived DS. We've been trying for a sibling for him for over two years unsuccessfully. I was just diagnosed w/ and treated for stage 3 endometriosis. In my early twenties, I had "sub-fertility." At 30, I am (apparently) infertile. However, hopefully w/the help of technology, I will conceive again. If I don't, we'll adopt.

My mom is completely infertile and never gave birth. Yet she has 30 year old twins. Lots and lots of infertile women have children and most go through hell and back to get them.

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Registered: 12-29-1999

Apparently not. Someone should tell my mom that she can't "have kids" since she's infertile though. And I guess I "can't" have DS since I'm infertile...

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