"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 08-22-2005

I guess I'm thinking along the lines of lying as telling mom I'm going to a movie, but I'm really going to a party, when I was in High school.

That's disrespectful.

Karen


"We are told that in , "cattle and sheep outnumber people by the millions." Which is why we're here, I suspect, given that cattle and sheep don't post spoilers on the internet, or if they do, they all just say things like, "Moo moo moo, moo! MMM! Moooo, moo. MMMMM, moo


Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, The Amazing Race Finale

Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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Registered: 11-22-2005
Can I please just say one more time that I was frustrated when I made the comment about it being her choice to have her children so far apart? I will say it one last time, I know, and have known since my first post, that there are certain circumstances in which it is not a woman's choice to have her children far apart. I didn't post about secondary infertility, I asked for clarification on the term of infertility. Explaing what I thought it mean, and asked, really truly was just curious, if I was wrong, and to be explain. Don't always assume a question is sarcastic, some are really interested.
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Registered: 11-22-2005
That's ok!
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Registered: 02-11-2005
maybe it's just a different perspective.....a friend of mine was able to conceive very very easily with child one and two. then they wanted a third..they tried and tried (for over a year) and even resorted to clomid and other accelerated options to conceive. that did get her pregnant but she never considered herself infertile.
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Registered: 11-22-2005
Thank you for the clarification, it's nice to learn new things, and thank you for being kind about it. I really just am a curios person, and I ask a lot of questions, and I don't intend for them to be rude, so if it came off that way, I apologize.
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Registered: 04-09-2003

I have endo also. After our DD was three we tried for five years, and suffered through many miscarriages. Just when I had pretty much thrown in the towel on having a second baby, I became pregnant with DS. I will never forget, I started bleeding with him at around nine weeks. I convinced myself I was miscarrying again. I made an appointment with my wonderful O.B. who scheduled me for an ultrasound. When DH and I went in the next morning, we saw a heartbeat. I was so excited. I'm so thankful to say, my DS was born seven months later. I wish you and your DH the same blessing as well :)

Julia




Edited 1/12/2006 10:56 am ET by maceymom

Julia

Proud Mommy of Macey and Reece

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Registered: 08-22-2005

You must simply be used to accusing me of attacking you. I was responding to Felicia about a WIDESPREAD problem with american education. I'm glad you can find Texas on a map. But that doesn't change the FACT that most Americans CANNOT find their own state on a map. Nor does it change the FACT that right now in the US, people are joyfully LEAPING for the opportunity to dismantle the Constitution and the Bill of Rights and few if any understand why state laws vary.

I think it's a disgrace and I know Felicia agrees with me on this subject and I was commenting to her on it.

Karen


"We are told that in , "cattle and sheep outnumber people by the millions." Which is why we're here, I suspect, given that cattle and sheep don't post spoilers on the internet, or if they do, they all just say things like, "Moo moo moo, moo! MMM! Moooo, moo. MMMMM, moo


Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, The Amazing Race Finale

Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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Oh man....you're really asking me how faith is related to religion?
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Registered: 11-22-2005
Yes disrespectful in a sense. Fine. Like I said, I can not find the right way to explain to you what I am trying to say, and you refuse to ever see anyone's view but your own, so there is really no point. Yes, lying is disrespectul, I did it to my parents, but I still did respect them. That's the only way I know how to say it, yet I know it makes no sense. I just can't grasp the words to explain my meaning.
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Registered: 03-21-2001

Infertility doesn't necessarily mean you can't ever have children.


Infertility can be "corrected" (for lack of a better word) with infertility treatments, such as IVF, Clomid+IUI, injectables, LAP, etc.

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