"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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Registered: 06-27-1998

I agree that it's interesting.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-22-2005

::::snort:::: yeah. Good thing ;)

That cuts it. One of these days, I MUST meet you in person.

Karen


"We are told that in , "cattle and sheep outnumber people by the millions." Which is why we're here, I suspect, given that cattle and sheep don't post spoilers on the internet, or if they do, they all just say things like, "Moo moo moo, moo! MMM! Moooo, moo. MMMMM, moo


Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, The Amazing Race Finale

Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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Actually, I can kinda see how you could respect someone so much for who they are and what they stand for that you could actually lie to them about who you are and what you are doing because you don't want to lose THEIR respect. It's a totally dysfunctional situation, but I can see it happening.
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Registered: 11-22-2005
Can you blame me for being used to you attacking me? Maybe I just find it hard to believe that people can not find their OWN state on a map! So, so sad!
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Registered: 11-22-2005
I knew about these, I guess I just thought infertility meant no kids, ever, no matter how many druge you take to correct it. But I learned something.
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I loved my government classes in college, I like seeing how the system works.
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Registered: 11-22-2005
LOIS!!!! Thank you, that is exactly what I was trying to explain, it just took you to find the right words!
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Registered: 08-22-2005

and you refuse to ever see anyone's view but your own,

Let's just stick to the topic and I'm pretty sure my character flaws, legion though they may be, are not it.

On topic, I understand what you're saying. I disagree with it.

Karen


"We are told that in , "cattle and sheep outnumber people by the millions." Which is why we're here, I suspect, given that cattle and sheep don't post spoilers on the internet, or if they do, they all just say things like, "Moo moo moo, moo! MMM! Moooo, moo. MMMMM, moo


Miss Alli @ TelevisionWithoutPity, The Amazing Race Finale

Karen

"Veronica: "I hate fake deer too. Every time I see their stupid fake-deer faces I want to grab a shotgun and go all Cheney on 'em." Sure, but since fake deer don't talk, they won't

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Registered: 06-27-1998

Unfortunately it doesn't always.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-11-2005
i kwym....another friend of mine has had about 3 miscarriages. one before any of her boys were born and two others just within the last year. sad. i think the *infertile* thing bothered her more when she miscarried before successfully getting pregnant and having her *first* (as she wondered if she would ever get pg and have children) than now. everything in her life, including this, is very christian and fate driven.


Edited 1/12/2006 11:07 am ET by mom3texas

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