"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"

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Registered: 11-11-2005
"We don 't believe in that [WOHM]"
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Mon, 01-09-2006 - 11:31am

On Friday, as I was driving hom from work, I stumbled across an interview with the wife of the one surviving miner from the collapse in WVa. In the course of the interview, someone asked her if she worked.

Her response was that they don't believe in that. She explained that her husband was very proud of the fact that he was the sole supporter of the family, and that he didn't need her help in supporting them. She explained that they just don't believe in women working after they have kids and husbands, and that they believe her place is at home with the kids.

My heart really goes out to her, and this post isn't about her, but about the sentiment that women shouldn't work because their place is at home. And being a real man, even if it means working in dangerous conditions, long hours, holding two jobs and being a step away from poverty at every turn, means that your wife doesn't work.

I suppose this is the first time that I've heard someone, not a movie character or a character in a book, express this sentiment. I don't understand why anyone would be proud to limit their spouse's potential. Or why be proud that you live right on the poverty line?

If they didn't see the dangers of their POV before, surely that entire community, and even the whole country, has now seen the risk that we talk about on here all the time, the risk that suddenly the SAHM will need to find a way to financially support the family. I wonder if anyone will re-think what they believe in.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2005
Ahaaa...that clears it up even more, thank you okie!
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Registered: 02-11-2005

RE teacher for 6-8 years? good for you nemom!

i taught (cce...what they call it here in houston) last year but took this year off because of the move we almost considered and all. dd2 is just now memorizing the *our father* prayer in 1st grade (something dd1 learned last year as well). anytime earlier than that would have been totally over her head. on that note thou, i am very pleased that my 3 year old ds dips his finger in holy water and does the sign of the cross before entering his preschool classroom every day.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
I'm not sure either. I can't think of a single value- that could be comprehended by a 5yo- that is not also secular. Compassion etc. are certainly embraced by religion, but they are not religious values per se. Agnostic and athiest and non-practising parents teach them too.
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Registered: 02-11-2005
but regardless of the medical condition/diagnosis or one's own outlook and pov, it still s*cks i'm sure so my heart does go out to you.....i remember the couple years it took to conceive baby number one. we never resorted to medical treatment but if there is any truth to fate, i connect it to the very window that opened in my lfie because it was at this same time that my mother was marking her grave.
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Registered: 09-04-1997
I'm coming in March, can you wait until then for the big meet? We could all go out someplace, have a big DC area meet or something...of course, you can see each other before then, too. You have my permission ;-)
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Registered: 08-12-2003
I'll bring my portrait of Nixon so

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2005
You live in Houston? What church do you go to?
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Registered: 03-26-2003

Of course!

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Registered: 09-04-1997
I've taught Sunday School and religious education classes to children for well over a decade now. It's incredible what little kids can learn. By the time my kids have finished first grade, they can find any reference you ask them to in the Bible, have memorized the basic prayers and creeds of the church, know the seasons of the liturgical year and what they mean, and know the basic salvational stories of the Old and New Testament (Adam and Eve, Noah, Abraham and his descendants, Moses, King David, can identify the four major prophets and some of the minor ones), Jesus from conception through assumption) and know a little about the birth of the church and Paul's role in spreading the Gospel. I consider that more "religious education" than religious values, but they're little sponges at this age and I consider it a shame to waste those years in terms of religious education.
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Registered: 06-27-1998

I teach Sunday School to kindergarten and first grade children and have for 4 years now.

PumpkinAngel

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