Weddings and children

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Weddings and children
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Wed, 07-16-2003 - 11:58am
I'm stealing this from another thread because I'm interested in everyones thoughts, and it is hard to get to the sub-threads of different threads. lol

So, what is your experience with children and weddings? I know there are some people adament that children not be included. I am completely the opposite. I cannot imagine a wedding without children everywhere.

DH and I got married at the courthouse in another state, so this wasn't an issue for us, but we are currently kicking around an idea to renew our vows and have a "reception" (party) in 2 years for our 10th anniversary. In my opinion, my wedding, or renewing my wedding vows is an incredibly special and happy occasion I want to share with all my family and friends. And that includes the minor one.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 07-19-2003 - 2:10pm
Wow, even by your standards that comeback was pretty lame. What's the matter? forget you're ignoring me? Couldn't think of "oh, yeah?!?" until too late?

Well....better luck next time.

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Registered: 04-24-2003
Sat, 07-19-2003 - 2:20pm
It's funny, but I guess I DO feel strange if I DON'T offer alcohol when I have an adult party. I guess it's just what I'm used to. If I had a dinner party and didn't at least offer beer or wine, I would feel like I left something out, like forgetting napkins or something. However, if I'm invited to someone else's house, I wouldn't feel upset if alcohol was not served. If it were a fancy dinner party, I guess I would think it odd if wine was not offered, and it might make me wonder for a minute or two, but it wouldn't bother me.
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Registered: 08-29-2002
Sat, 07-19-2003 - 2:23pm
Yea our reception was seriously boring...we had a large table in a wine garden (public restaurant set in vineyards and only open during summer) in the Alps (Austrian Alps). We just sat around, had lovely conversation, enjoyed the spectacular scenery, listened to 17th century traditional Austrian music, ate some amazing breads and hams, sipped a bit of wine and finished up with ice coffee for everyone (vanilla ice cream with expresson coffee topped with whipped cream). People still oooh and aaah over the reception. Amazingly, we had no dancing and nothing stronger than a bit of wine, and I still have the fondest memories of that wedding 12 years after the fact. We always joke (no joke though) that is cost more to get all of the paper-work approved for the marriage than the entire reception.


Laura

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Registered: 04-24-2003
Sat, 07-19-2003 - 2:25pm
When I go to baby shower, I DO like the idea of making a fuss over the new mom, and making her feel like she IS the first mom ever. Heaven knows it may be the last time she feels pampered and fussed over for a while! : )
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Sat, 07-19-2003 - 2:58pm
I have the same attitude, and I think we're both as right as can be. ;)

Etiquette, to me, is about rules of behavior *for myself.* It means that I always, always serve wine and beer when I'm hosting a party. Etiquette also mandates, to me, that I gracefully accept whatever is offered by the hosts of the parties I attend. I've been served some truly awful meals in my time, but I have the sense and the grace to shut up, try to get it down, and compliment the chef. I've sipped horrendous red wine that burned my mouth like acid with a smile on my face.

Complaining that you aren't being feted in a grand enough manner is the exact opposite of etiquette.

Congratulations! I'm so happy to hear it. I just heard the good news and popped back over, just in case you were still checking in.
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Sat, 07-19-2003 - 4:32pm
I am! And don't forget it!
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Sat, 07-19-2003 - 4:34pm
Wealthy enough, thank you. It's better than being petty and superficial.
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Sat, 07-19-2003 - 4:36pm
I highly doubt you have anyone to go out WITH.
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Sat, 07-19-2003 - 4:40pm
I don't think she's confused. I think she is so used to thinking of only herself and what people can do for her that she doesn't know anything else.....
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Registered: 04-24-2003
Sat, 07-19-2003 - 4:47pm
Actually, I'm not. But you obviously are because I wasn't referring to your friends. I was referring to YOU as a "friend", and I use the term loosely.

As for me being sarcastic and "b**chy", that's right, baby. It comes from a lifetime of dealing with people like you who are, incidently, a dime a dozen.


Edited 7/19/2003 4:51:08 PM ET by hazelnutjava

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