Weekend fluff.

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Weekend fluff.
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Sun, 08-17-2003 - 2:29pm
Tomorrow dh and i will celebrate our 24th wedding anniversary. we will be at work, and ds2 will start 10th grade. whewwwww-whwwwwwww. with that in mind, i have a few questions(some of which have been asked before).

1. how long are you married to your dh?

2. how many children do you have?

3. how long did you date your dh?

4. how long was your engagement(if you had one, o.k.LOL)

5. what do you attribute to you staying married?

6. when choosing your dh, what are some qualities that were attractive to you?

7. how many people did you date before dh?

8. did your marriage effect where you live? did you relocate?

9. if you had another chance would you marry the same person?

10. do you miss single life?

11. what is your favorite thing above everything else about your dh?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-17-2003 - 2:37pm
i will answer my own questions.

1. how long are you married to your dh? 24yrs

2. how many children do you have? 3/// lee oliver 21yo, jaime beth 20yo, kenneth dale 16 yo

3. how long did you date your dh? 6yrs

4. how long was your engagement(if you had one, o.k.LOL). 2yrs

5. what do you attribute to you staying married? whose gonna get all the stuff if we split up?

6. when choosing your dh, what are some qualities that were attractive to you? he was cute and i had to have him. what else is there when you're 16?

7. how many people did you date before dh? 0

8. did your marriage effect where you live? did you relocate? yes, dh could not get a job up north, so we had to move to nc.

9. if you had another chance would you marry the same person? honestly? i dont think so. we are so opposite, and the religion thing is so important to me, and its been a battle. he and i also dont agree on how to raise children. hes not a good listener, and is not interested in things i am.

10. do you miss single life? nope.

11. what is your favorite thing above everything else about your dh? the growth he has had despite our differences.

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Sun, 08-17-2003 - 2:53pm
1. how long are you married to your dh?

will be 8 years in late September

2. how many children do you have?

Two, a girl, 6 1/2 and a boy, 5

3. how long did you date your dh?

19 days

4. how long was your engagement(if you had one, o.k.LOL)

ROFL...ummm, I dunno, not long

5. what do you attribute to you staying married?

A friend of mine asked me this exact question this week after learning more about DHs psychological issues. My answer...I don't know. lol. Truthfully, sheer persistence and my understanding of his illness. If I heard of a situation where one of the spouses behaved as my husband has/does, I would tell the person to RUN. But it is different when it is a mental illness. I think when you are married to someone with one you just have to be understanding of the fact that they don't control a lot of things....as frustrating as that may be.

6. when choosing your dh, what are some qualities that were attractive to you?

He was very active, caring, sympathetic. We grew up in much the same way, even through it was almost a generation apart, so we were understanding of each other WRT those issues. And he loved kids and wanted a family more than anything. And yes, he believed in having a SAHP.

7. how many people did you date before dh?

not many, I was only 18 when married.

8. did your marriage effect where you live? did you relocate?

Not really, but it could have. When I married him, I knew we would probably be moved. The fact that we didn't is odd. But both of our families are here, so it worked out great.

9. if you had another chance would you marry the same person?

*sigh* I can't really answer this question. I like to believe that everything we have been through has helped to make me a stronger and better person. However, the pain and heartache it has taken to get here...well, I don't know.

10. do you miss single life?

not at ALL!!!!

11. what is your favorite thing above everything else about your dh?

He would give ANYONE the shirt off his back, if they needed it. He is very giving of both his time, money and things.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-17-2003 - 3:15pm
1. how long are you married to your dh?

Going on 22 years.

2. how many children do you have?

3 DDs

3. how long did you date your dh?

17 months, although 7 of those months we were living in different countries so were actually doing any "dating".

4. how long was your engagement(if you had one, o.k.LOL)

If you are counting from the time he asked me to marry him until the wedding about 5 months.

5. what do you attribute to you staying married?

We both feel the same about commitmment (both to each other and the girls)


6. when choosing your dh, what are some qualities that were attractive to you?

He is the only person that I have ever felt completely at ease with.

7. how many people did you date before dh?

4 total, 2 very casual, 2 serious.

8. did your marriage effect where you live? did you relocate?

Long story there. We met in Japan where we were both stationed with the Air Force. He returned to the states and went to North Dakota. I returned to the states 7 months later with orders to Arizonia. While on leave before I reported to that assignment I went to ND and we got married. Then I moved to Arizonia, 4 months later I finally go join spouse orders and was able to join him in ND.

9. if you had another chance would you marry the same person?

Yes.

10. do you miss single life?

Not at all

11. what is your favorite thing above everything else about your dh?

His commmitment to the people around him.



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-17-2003 - 3:41pm
<<<<>>>>

OH i see, you married him for his money. ppffffffttttttttt. sorry, i had to. ROFLMAO.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-17-2003 - 4:05pm
As I posted we met while we both were stationed in Japan with the Air Force. I think I found the perfect place to spend our anniversay this year.

http://www.hangarhotel.com/Hotel.htm

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Sun, 08-17-2003 - 4:16pm
ROFLMBO...well, I HAVE been a SAHM, so you just KNOW that the only reason I married him was for the money. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-17-2003 - 4:18pm
I always tell DH that I only married him for his money and body. When we married I was only an E-3 but he was bringing in big E-4 pay.
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Registered: 12-12-2002
Sun, 08-17-2003 - 4:19pm
SNORT...well, we all know those E-4s are rolling in the dough! ;)

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Sun, 08-17-2003 - 5:09pm
Married 8 years.

2 boys, ages 5 and 2.

Dated for 2 years 8 months.

Engagement was 1 year.

Our personalities....and separate bank accounts keep us together.

6. when choosing your dh, what are some qualities that were attractive to you?

Sense of humor, work ethic, kindness

7. how many people did you date before dh?

Seriously? 1 for 3 years and another for about 6 months.

8. did your marriage effect where you live? did you relocate?

He relocated, but only about 45 minutes away and 20 degrees cooler.

9. if you had another chance would you marry the same person?

Abso-frickin-lutely. He's the best and I tell him that all the time.

10. do you miss single life?

Hell, no. I miss being able to go out a lot, but with DH, not as a single person.

11. what is your favorite thing above everything else about your dh?

He's a great father and he's so good to me.

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Sun, 08-17-2003 - 5:18pm
1. how long are you married to your dh? It'll be 13 years in October

2. how many children do you have? 3

3. how long did you date your dh? We had a long distance relationship that makes it hard to answer this question. We met in June 1989. We became engaged in May 1990 and married in October 1990.

4. how long was your engagement(if you had one, o.k.LOL) see above

5. what do you attribute to you staying married? Love and sheer stubbornness

6. when choosing your dh, what are some qualities that were attractive to you? His butt. . .seriously though, his level of loyalty, commitment, and responsibility.

7. how many people did you date before dh? seriously. . .5

8. did your marriage effect where you live? did you relocate? Um, yes. Grew up in Arkansas, lived there 4.5 years after marriage, lived in Germany 4.5 years, been in Kansas just over 4 years.

9. if you had another chance would you marry the same person? YES

10. do you miss single life? NO

11. what is your favorite thing above everything else about your dh? His eyes. . .I could get lost in them.. .and the feeling I get (after all this time) when he holds me.

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