were YOU a REBEL ;)

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were YOU a REBEL ;)
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Mon, 12-15-2008 - 3:58pm

so i promised to back off the duggar debate but the feedback really does have me wondering.

 

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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 10:54am

<<They raised me to think independently and make my own decisions. And based on that, I chose to step out of the conventional path and make my own way, hell and be damned.>>


This sums it up well for me....my own decisions and to be responsible for those decisions.

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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 10:57am

>I mean, I *could* honestly say I rebelled because of how my parents raised me. They raised me to think independently and make my own decisions. And based on that, I chose to step out of the conventional path and make my own way, hell and be damned. I know (and knew) that my parents didn't think going into the Army was necessarily my best choice. But it was MY choice. <

I was raised the same way and that's how we raised the girls and are now raising Dylan. But because we raised them to think independently and make their own decisions, I wouldn't call it rebellion simply because those decisions weren't/aren't the decisions that I would/did make. As it was, you were simply applying the principles that your parents taught you. As my girls tell me--it's my fault that they think for themselves. :)

Chris

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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 11:18am

LoL...yep.


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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 11:47am

Yeah, I think there is still some gender separation in the legal field too. I know a lot of women my age who gravitated toward "softer" practices like estate planning because they thought they'd get a better family balance. When I was in practice, the women partners in my firm were all single and childless or had sah/pt partners. I think that's changing, but there are also a lot more non-partnership track attorneys around than there were ten years ago.

But it might depend on what kind of field you're talking about. My sisters are in the older group you're talking about (one is about to turn 64 and the other is 61) and they both had kids and careers--so did most of their friends. But they weren't drs or lawyers--both in education and neither of them made that kind of money. And I'm pretty close to that age myself--I turn 50 this year. Most of my friends are in their 40s and 50s, and pretty much everybody has kids (though a fair number had them later, like I did).

I'm with you on the shoes! DD1 isn't even 12 yet and wears a women's size 6.

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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 11:57am

I don't know. I just know that most of the legal writing teachers in our program are baby boomers (mainly in our 50s), and sometimes it seems that students don't want to work as hard as we did. I think that may be a misunderstanding about how this generation views careers/life/family choices.

I have pictures of my kids in my office, and it's not at all uncommon for women students (even a few men) to bring up family/career issues with me. I'm not sure that would have come up when I was in law school. I don't remember ever having conversations about work and family with my women law school friends.

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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 12:38pm
My 9 year old wears a man's size 7.

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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 12:40pm
I do think being less interested in working hard means less ambitious.

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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 1:26pm
Unless you include the desire to build a good family life an ambition as well. IOW, I am not sure these people are less ambitious overall, but they may be less singleminded in their ambition.
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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 1:44pm
Yes, I think that's a good way to put it.
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Tue, 12-16-2008 - 1:46pm
Yikes! Is he a big kid? My dd weighs 70 lbs and is about 4 feet 10, so to me, her feet look huge!

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