were YOU a REBEL ;)

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were YOU a REBEL ;)
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Mon, 12-15-2008 - 3:58pm

so i promised to back off the duggar debate but the feedback really does have me wondering.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-17-2008 - 10:48am
Your childhood experience was extreme and quite sad from what you explain. Your experience is not typical for either a WOH or a SAH household from what I have seen. Even very poor people manage to get their kids to the doctor and get their kids into a soccer league or other activity at some point.
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Wed, 12-17-2008 - 11:00am

I know I written about it before on this board, but I worked very hard to achieve work-life balance for my family situation. I went from often working 80hrs a week prekids to pt ah employment in a very traditional company. That transition was not an easy one, I had to prove my worth as an employee at every stage. The was no one to follow as I was the first in my division to go the pt ah route. Now I mentor

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 12-17-2008 - 11:01am
So, you're hear just to rant, not to debate?

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Wed, 12-17-2008 - 11:18am
Your childhood experience was extreme and quite sad from what you explain. Your experience is not typical for either a WOH or a SAH household from what I have seen. Even very poor people manage to get their kids to the doctor and get their kids into a soccer league or other activity at some point.



Not where I grew up. Most of the kids I lived around never even graduated HS. My experience was pretty typical for where I grew up. I got to the doctor when necessary...well...actually there was this one time I needed stiches but the light was bad...mom didn't know till the next day. Anyways....most kids I knew were not in any activities. One other girl did cheerleading, she had a good family that just lived in a bad neighborhood. Some did some things in HS, the rest just partied and did drugs got in to trouble with the police. I didn't do activities till HS...well before when I was young and lived with my grandmother. My mother didn't have money or time for activities. She was earning money feeding me...


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Lilypie Zweiter Ticker
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-17-2008 - 11:23am
It may have been typical for your neighborhood, but as you say you grew up in a terrible area and one that was extremely poor. It must have been hard and I am sorry for what you went through. However, most people do not grow up in such extreme conditions, at least not in the western world.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-17-2008 - 11:25am

Most of the kids I lived around never even graduated HS.


There are large portions of the US where most children do graduate from HS.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Wed, 12-17-2008 - 11:37am


Are you serious?

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Wed, 12-17-2008 - 11:47am

"Why do you think there are so many school shootings?So many school fights? Why do you think the school education standards are crap...all these standardized tests that mean nothing but a nice score for the school and nothing about the education of children. Parents send their kids off to day care in the morning, school during the day then back to daycare. Then 2-4 hours with mommy, but that is homework, dinner and washing up...where is the parenting in that?"

Hmmm, by this argument there should be rampant school shootings and fights in Sweden, since both parents work in most families. Strangely, it's not happening. Therefore, I'd have to say that kids being in daycare (only or before/after school) is likely not the cause of school shootings and fights.

And, fwiw, despite both dh and I having fairly intense jobs (mine involving a fair bit of travel to boot), somehow we manage to contribute enough to raising our kids that they fluently speak, read and write in languages they only hear at home. Interesting, isn't it? I suspect those tasks of "homework, dinner, washing up" etc. you are so dismissive of may actually constitute an important part of parenting and raising kids.

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Wed, 12-17-2008 - 12:01pm

There are large portions of the US where most children do graduate from HS.


Lilypie Zweiter Ticker
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Registered: 06-17-2004
Wed, 12-17-2008 - 12:04pm
Tell me where I called WOHM's evil please?

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