were YOU a REBEL ;)

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were YOU a REBEL ;)
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Mon, 12-15-2008 - 3:58pm

so i promised to back off the duggar debate but the feedback really does have me wondering.

 

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Fri, 02-20-2009 - 5:35am

Not all poor single mothers live in roach infested apts/houses. I only remember having roaches once...we got rid of them quickly. It was a cold winter. Anyways...just because you live in poor places doesn't mean there are roaches. I don't think that will make a child appreciate the things they have better, it will just gross them out. It always did to me when I saw them...fleas too.


I don't think children will understand what it is to be poor or struggle unless they live through it themselves. They can see it but not understand it. Helping out and volunteering will give them more a sense of what it is to help people without expecting something in return. That will help them appreciate the things they have more when they understand what it is like to do something for others with nothing in return but a 'thank you'.


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Thu, 02-05-2009 - 8:25am

I've actually been looking for a roach-infested apartment to move into, just to give some kid somewhere something to feel


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Fri, 01-30-2009 - 1:21am


Generalize much?

I'm a single mom. I have two Master's degrees and am almost finished my Ph.D. I own a home that doesn't have a roach or any other type of bug in it. Last week I bought my son an IPod Touch just cause I felt like it. Yesterday I went and got my hair coloured and tomorrow I'm going for a facial. In a few weeks, I have an all expenses paid trip to the coast to sit in on meetings regarding a textbook I'm working on with three other professors. Hmm, I wonder if anyone parades their kids by my house to see "how it is to be a single mom"?

Anyway, I don't understand your point because even if you did show your kids what you think it is like to be a single mom or be disabled (?) they still might rebel. It is part of growing up and most kids do it in some manner. My Mom thought I was hell on wheels, but I was pretty tame in comparison to some of my friends. On the other hand, I was the worst out of a lot of my other friends. It is just so subjective...my "rebellion" stories might bore some of you to tears but they might offend other people's sensibilities. Who knows.

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Tue, 01-27-2009 - 11:33am

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I would imagine it would be for the same reason that you and your kids would go to the soup kitchen or to visit the homebound - to give service, whether to babysit the kids or run an errand or help repair storm damage. Service requires thoughtfulness and an awareness of others' circumstances, which in turn develops a broader perspective of one's own circumstances.

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Sat, 01-24-2009 - 9:43pm
Yeah, I was a bit of a "rebel" too. I like to call it unruly. My mom was a SAHM our entire life. We always had all we wanted, were secure and supported. Daddy was a pilot and then, later, a lawyer. He was involved in our lives as well. So, no..absolutely not(in my situation) was my rebellion because of their bad parenting. It's not about the $ either. She was home raising us and he was supportive as well which were to be expected. Perhaps I was sheltered..well, I was. I wanted to experience different things. I think if I ever saw a single mom in desperation or a roach-infested apt where children are raised then I would've appreciated what I had more. I believe that you need to at least show your kids (at an appropriate age) how it is for those who are poor, how it is to struggle, how it is to be a single mom or how it is to be disabled after DWI so they can understand how it is if they rebel. I agree with and like those "think it over" dolls in h.s!.
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Sun, 01-11-2009 - 11:28pm
Ah yes, I use the storytime bargaining chip with my youngest as well. lol
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Sun, 01-11-2009 - 11:23pm
I suppose I was a rebel. My Mom thought I was a terror, but I wasn't as bad as half of my friends. it had nothing to do with her parenting, or her work status...it was just me and my personality. None of my siblings were particularly rebellious.
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Sun, 01-11-2009 - 1:55pm

You don't want to get into a discussion with me about gun control. :)

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Sun, 01-11-2009 - 12:34pm

Guns are not easier to get


i agree.

 

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