What about eating issues?

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What about eating issues?
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Fri, 06-10-2005 - 2:24pm

We have debated sleeping issues to death once again....so what about another one of the issues of childhood....eating and/or not eating?


My kids eat just about anything and have a pretty well rounded diet.

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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 12:09am

Love the British original, hate the American copy. Although I have to say I'm not too hot on the new edition of the UK programme; I have my doubts about the "this is your life" bit, though I'm sure Trinny and Susannah are painfully sincere about it.

The reason I like the UK version is that fashion really isn't an issue at all for them; they come up with some VERY unfashionable combinations at times. Also, they are much more likely to choose people who are fat or short or hump-backed than the US version, which is mostly about attractive and shapely people who happen to have bad fashion sense; the Americans tend to be bodies that are relatively easy to dress well.

T & R's tack is that fit, cut, fabric and color are crucial, and if you get those, you will look attractive no matter how fashionable or unfashionable you are. A lot of the advice they give is hard to manage at retail, particularly if one is large. Anyone who knows cut knows that tapered trousers look good only on the thin, and wide flares only look good on the tall, but straight-legged styles are nearly non-existant in plus-size stores. Capris are an all-round disaster on someone with thick ankles, but several plus-size stores I know haven't carried a full-length trouser in summer for the past three years.

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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 12:38am

The ONLY lined casual shorts I've seen lately are meant for exercise, w/ built-in compression liners. The only non-exercise place I'll wear them is at theme parks, b/c they don't chafe if you get soaked on wet rides. They are not very flattering, but prevention of prickly heat trumps ugly.

The only other fully-lined ladies shorts I've ever seen in my life were either silk or wool Bermudas popular in the South back in the early 90's. As a former tailor, I can tell you that lining cotton shorts, esp. casual cotton shorts, is really unusual, unless the cotton were of a very light texture, something like fine broadcloth, which is normally not used for bottoms. The most common fabrics for casual cotton bottoms are duck, canvas, or twill; even in white, none of them should require a lining unless you are wearing cartoon undies.

The only lined things I own are my more formal work clothes and after-5 dresses. All of my lingerie is flesh-toned, so nothing shows through anything unless I end up soaking wet, and if I'm expecting that to happen I wear dark colours where it counts.

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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 12:49am
Whether pleats are flattering depends on direction. Facing out is universally bad, but facing inward tends to flatter just about everyone even better than a flat front.
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 12:59am

Actually, cut is more related to drape; the type of fabric is inherantly important in proper cut. Silk will drape a certain way if cut on the bias, but the same fabric will have a completely different drape cut on the straight or cross grain. BTW, lining will completely alter cut requirements for a given fabric; some fabrics will always hang incorrectly if not lined with the proper complementary fabric cut on a complementary grain.

Most commonly, cut in ready-to-wear is a matter of length and skim; how closely does the style follow the natural contour of your body, and where do the horizontal breaks fall in relation to your anatomy? Cut doesn't matter much when you stand still; it reveals itself when you move.

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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 3:07am
Our more challenging child was blessed last year with a wonderful teacher who saw all his positive traits and helped him in so many ways -- she teasingly referred to him as a "border collie" who was absolutely wonderful when he had a job to do, but liable to get into trouble when he didn't. This year, this kid organized the neighborhood kids into an anti-smoking campaign, organized the whole school into a petition to save the old playground (didn't work, the PTA replaced the old stuff anyway) and wrote letters to our Governor and President to protests the many standardized tests they were required to take. The teacher saved all the documentation to present to me at the end of the year and wrote a really special note to my son to praise his leadership and organizational acumen and to urge him to work with his next teacher so that she can see his good qualities from the very beginning of the year. This teacher will be the one we remember forever -- they are still e-mailing each other now --long, chatty letters. This is in comparison to his 1st grade teacher, who spent the whole year in a power struggle with him and accomplished nothing.
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 3:11am
We have had our share of difficult moments, even difficult weeks, since become parents, but that doesn't make me unhappy or ready to steal my child's ADHD medication or run screaming into the night. It's just stuff, just life. It's not even "difficult." It's just the way things are some days.
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 3:14am
I dunno, Felicia. You have, in the past, been highly critical of people who don't take time to exercise, and Lord knows you've made fun of my lack of style over the years. You are fully capable of being snobby about style and exercise as well.
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 5:01am
Yes. Absolutely.
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 6:13am

We had problems this year. DS' teacher told me he was having problems and that he needed to see a doctor because he needed therapy and meds. As Jorvia says, "F-ck that noise." I took him to his ped who asked me a few questions and then said, "Sounds like the teacher is the problem." DS is creative and stubborn and he HATES being told what to do. The problem was with his teacher -- she was a drill sergeant. And, she talked to those kids like they were dog poop. I got his teacher changed to one who loves it that he is creative and who talks to kids in a respectful way. His behavior improved 100%.

I refuse to see his traits as negative, especially since I have the same ones. I HATE it when people tell me I'm stubborn. Yeah. So? It's how I got this business off the damned ground when everyone told me I would fail. And his teachers complain he doesn't follow directions. I say, "So what? Neither do I." If I followed directions, I wouldn't have DS.

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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 7:14am
Not directly related, but reading your post reminded me of a conversation I had with DH about 8 years ago, when I had taken up cross-stitching during my 2 hr. commutes. It was something I also often came to do while at home until carpal tunnel issues made me have to give it up. Nothing "difficult" about it, very repetitive, almost all following the instructions, just have to remember was that it was often easier and the results better to improvise a smidge than to take out ten rows over one misplaced stitch. DH, who, as a surgeon, has professionally good sewing hands, would watch me do this and be amazed that I could find it relaxing, as it would have had quite the opposite effect on him. To him, putting stitches in something is work, not relaxation, even though it is as easy for him as it is for me, and he is at least as good at it as I am. He figured it would make a really painful prison sentence to him to be told that he would be released as soon as he finished a piece of cross-stitching - it would be exceedingly stressful for him to work for hours on something and have it be so obvious that he still had hundreds of hours left to go on it. As for me, I don't have to pretend not to notice that it goes very slowly or be dishonest with myself about that - it simply doesn't have the effect on me of disturbing me to have hundreds of hours left to go on something when I know what it is I have to do, that I have the equipment and skill to do it, and that the result will be lovely - I enjoy watching the pattern unfold and be surprised by the shadings. Far from wishing away the time it takes, if it did go faster, I wouldn't be able to savor it as much. (And I wouldn't see the point of asking myself whether tying off the threads is an unrewarding bother and thus a negative, because it doesn't matter whether it is or not, as it is necessary to have a good result in a good and enjoyable process.)

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