What about eating issues?
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What about eating issues?
| Fri, 06-10-2005 - 2:24pm |
We have debated sleeping issues to death once again....so what about another one of the issues of childhood....eating and/or not eating?
My kids eat just about anything and have a pretty well rounded diet.

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***Charles***


<<So she's complaining about him being whiny and manipulative occasionally?>>
Yep.
<<Then she's labeled a perfectly normal 3 YO disagreeable just for being a perfectly normal 3 YO.>>
She doesn't label HIM as disagreeable .. she's labeling his behavior at times as disagreeable. Its like the difference between saying someone is being a bitch and saying someone is a bitch.
BTW, she has never indicated he wasn't a perfectly normal 3 yo. It was other posters that said he was unhappy and needed to be fixed.
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Yep. That she has no qualms about posting the negative side of parenting. Some people (myself included) find it easier to deal with and work through a scenario when we can 1) be brutally honest and 2) talk about it.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
"If you have a whiny or tempermental child, why automatically assume it is due to not enough time with the mother?" Oh, I wouldn't. Are you thinking I do for some reason?
"Why assume it is something that has to be fixed at all?" Oh, I don't. Are you thinking I do for some reason?
"Felicia hasn't asked anyone to diagnmose or 'fix' her child, she simply has been very honest about the frustrations of dealing with a very needy child." That's certainly one possible interpretation.
"That so many people have decided it is because she is being a bad parent or not spending enough time with him--when you guys don't know the first thing about how they interact or what the child may need-is not just rude, it's disgusting." Who has decided she's a bad parent or is not spending enough time with him? Certainly not me. I haven't seen anyone say that's the case. Have you? Who?
"Clearly, you don't have much of a positive natuire to say about Felicia. It oozes out of most threads." Oh. (Have you noticed she doesn't have much of a positive nature to say about me, by any chance, or did that escape your attention?)
"But to decided that her child is needy becasue she isn't doing a good job mothering--and based on nothing at beyond that fact that she is honest enough to admit that her child is difficult?" Golly. I didn't do any of that. I don't know why you seem to think I did. Seems you're awfully biased against me.
"So, are all of us with difficult children bad mothers? Or is it just Felicia?" How rude of you to say that Felicia is a bad mother! Guess that makes you worse than me, 'cause I never did. Certainly not all difficult children have bad mothers. Is there a reason you ask?
I guess I try to look at difficulties as the "glass is half full" versus being "half empty." I have difficulties, but I try to say to myself, "What can I learn from this?" Also, I try not to get negative (and I'm not saying I'm perfect, because I'm not) because thinking negative thoughts all the time brings me down. So instead of saying, "Sheesh, working, taking care of DS, cleaning house, and taking care of two dogs sure is hard!" -- which it most certainly is -- I say to myself, "A good number of people wish they had my problems." Because you know what? There are people who are dying, who have lost their children to illness, who can't walk or who live under highways -- with their children. So I just thank the universe for everything I have and go on.
And anyway, how can I complain about the difficulty of anything when my friend has cancer, has had her breast cut off, is a single mom, and has three children under five? She never once has said anything negative. She just thanks God she's still alive and that she has her children.
So after talking to her for a half hour, I count my blessings.
mom_writer
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Lauren, are you kidding? It's a turn of phrase. Do you really think MW meant that as a slam against you?
Did you ever see the Seinfeld where Jerry's dad wears the "World's Greatest Dad" t-shirt and gets into a fight with the "#1 Dad?" Come on.
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YOU are saying someone has made it the fault of the mother. Lois certainly didn't. Felicia, you know, the kid's mother, ASKED if it were a POSSIBILITY that Joey might be being demanding and whiny and manipulative toward her because HE feels he's not seeing as much as he likes of her (whether or not the amount of time he does spend with her would seem reasonable to an adult or even a less needy 3 YO). It's a reasonable question that implies nothing at all about whether what Felicia is doing is ACTUALLY best for him - only whether he in his naturally selfish 3 YO mind PERCEIVES it to be what he needs. YOU have twisted that around into Lois blaming Felicia, excusing the father (when we don't even know if he finds Joey to be whiny and manipulative and disagreeable, or if it's essentially a Felicia/Joey interaction issue), people being blamed, ripped to shreds, on and on and on. It's ridiculous.
"I also don't believe that some people love their kids more than others of us, even though they like to say they do." Who here has ever once said that they love their kid more than other people do? Ever? You are doing a colossally big job of stirring things up and criticizing others for stirring.
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