What about eating issues?

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What about eating issues?
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Fri, 06-10-2005 - 2:24pm

We have debated sleeping issues to death once again....so what about another one of the issues of childhood....eating and/or not eating?


My kids eat just about anything and have a pretty well rounded diet.

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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 4:22pm

No, you simply don't understand anything. All was right with the world both before and after DS was born. I never thought I worked too much before DS was born and never said I did. I certainly wasn't pining away for someone to be an insomniac too. It was an unexpected and cute perq that at times, for a few short months after he was born, I had something useful to do in the middle of the night when I was up anyhow.

"Even when he's in a bad mood, you can't imagine wanting to get away from him, even for an hour or two." It's not "can't imagine." It's that it would never occur to me to frame that problem in that way in the first place. What I want when he's in a bad mood, is for him to be in a better one, or for me to be in a better one, not for me not to be present. That's not sugarcoating, or even trying to reframe something that is everyone's first thought, in a more positive light. It's how I think of it from the get-go. It just flat wouldn't occur to me to think of the desired solution as not being with him rather than him being happier, although I certainly can once you share with me that that's your thought and the one you secretly suspect everyone has if they are just being honest. I find it really puzzling that with all the different backgrounds and experiences we have, we're all supposed to think exactly the same way about everything deep down. What would there be to debate if that's the case?

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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 4:24pm
No, you clearly don't. That's not what I said at all. I didn't say there was any way I could be "happier." I said there are multiple ways for me to be this (infuriatingly?) happy.
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 4:26pm
And your evidence for this particular pout is what, exactly?
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 4:28pm
Sheesh right back at you. You need to lighten up. I meant, He is the most loved and cherish child there ever was . . . despite the fact we didn't "plan" him. Not as in, I love my child more than LAUREN loves her boys. Please. I would hope you would know me better than that.
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 4:33pm
No, that isn't why I find it problematic. I find it problematic when anyone is putting a negative label on a child. Especially when that child is doing what's normal, expected, healthy and appropriate.
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 4:36pm
See, there's the thing. I've never once implied she didn't love him. And here you go, acting as if I did. And excusing something she did say, despite you having said it would be a big difference between what you thought she said and what she did say, not half an hour ago.
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 4:40pm

<<I've never once implied she didn't love him. And here you go, acting as if I did. >>


That isn't what I was meaning in my last paragraph. The point was ... if she did change the way she discusses him (as that is apparently something she does wrong) would it change their relationship? Nope. So why harp on her for complaining and venting?


<<And excusing something she did say, despite you having said it would be a big difference between what you thought she said and what she did say, not half an hour ago.>>


I said "you're right". What more do you want? I'm not gonna kiss your ass ..



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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 4:48pm

Thanks for the explanation. I don't think you're reading either what Lois said or what I said correctly. What I said in the post to which you refer was "You give no evidence whatsoever of being capable of considering the possibility that what's enough time for you to want with your children might not correlate exactly to what's enough time for your children to want with you." Which does not say anything about whether what time her children want with her is remotely reasonable, or whether that's even a particularly important consideration, and is not saying their wants are equivalent to needs. If a 3 YO child isn't getting what he wants, whether or not that's objectively reasonable - and it's highly likely that much of anything a 3 YO child wants is objectively reasonable! - he's going to whine and manipulate. It's an expected part of how they interact and communicate. Felicia seems to think it's inherent in him to whine regardless of circumstance. Lois seems to think he's apt to be whiny because he's not getting his way, and she raised the possibility that more time might be what he's after. I don't see anything which states Lois thinks the amount of time she spends with him IS ACTUALLY insufficient. I do see her as having said that perhaps it's not to HIS LIKING, and that, I do think is one of many possibilities.

The post in which you called me a liar is likely archived. It is not in this thread.

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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 4:50pm
Wow. You really don't get it. Because I don't think you're disagreeable. I think we disagree. I don't think that disagreement makes EITHER of us disagreeable. You seem to feel it means I am disagreeable.
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Wed, 06-22-2005 - 4:52pm

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Then it is in extremely poor taste for you to bring it up. But it is a common tactic for you.


(note: I do not imply, in any way, that I haven't done similar "in poor taste" postings.)



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