What about eating issues?

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What about eating issues?
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Fri, 06-10-2005 - 2:24pm

We have debated sleeping issues to death once again....so what about another one of the issues of childhood....eating and/or not eating?


My kids eat just about anything and have a pretty well rounded diet.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 9:32am
I don't think eating sweets occasionally will make you fat.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 9:33am
I don't get it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 9:35am

I was responding to dj's post about needing to serve my brother something "substantial."

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 9:37am
I've had this debate with dj before.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 9:37am
Yes, you and I seem to share similar approaches to mealtimes, those involving kids as well as those that don't. IMO, some kids need "carrots and/or sticks" to put together a halfway decent diet, as well as to show some congenial social graces around food. What I find really interesting, though, is that we part company on the issue of naps. To me, the nap thing, at least for young preschoolers, is somewhat analogous to food.
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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 9:42am

"safely" has nothing to do with it. And neither does pushing food on guests. Its the refusal to eat at a dinner event that is in question. Are you a vegetarian? Going to a bbq at a home that is not? Bring your own veggie burgers - or at least offer to. Showing up and then proclaiming - I can't really partake here, I'll just stick with the salad and bread, I'm a veg, is just rude. Selfish. And egocentric. If your needs are exceptional, then you take responsibility for seeing that they don't make others uncomfortable or put others in an awkward position. That is what is just gauche.

Food fadism does not make it hard to be considerate. The one practising the fad merely has to decide that in the name of having a social life, he/she can alter his/her own personal fad rules for the occasion, or can go to extra efforts to make sure his/her fad doesn't make others uncomfortable in the social setting.

Just like with pet allergies. I have lots of furry pets who have dander. You got an allergy to dogs or cats well guess what? I'm not putting them in a kennel for your visiting convenience. And guess what else. I clean tidy and vaccum for any social occassion. But I'm not going to extra lengths and taking a day off work or spending $200 for a service to deep clean my house down to the most minimal degree of pet evidence possible. You better bring your drugs. Because in my home, if you have any pet allergy at all, you will need them. Have a thing against drugs, on principal? Well then you should decline the invite. Your sniffling sneezing watery eyed self will detract from everyone elses enjoyment. Its not all about you.

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Registered: 03-16-2005
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 9:47am

So, you'd be being considerate by not serving a vegan entree?

Why not give it a go? I'm not interested. If you aren't interested in debating your personal life I'm not sure why you're trying so vigorously to get me to talk about your food issues. Unless, of course, you're just itching for a pretext to take a potshot at my mother.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 9:50am
Showing up with exceptional requirements, that you know are exceptional, to a home that you know does not share your excpetional - particularily exceptional by choice - requirements, and expecting to be accomondated by default, is what is rude. The brother should really make an effort to find out what is on the menu, and offer to bring his own substitutions. I don't invite people over to recreate their daily life experiences for them - thats what they do every day in their own homes. I invite them over to enjoy a little something of mine, presumably a little something different than what they are used to. And quite often, its not "for them" its for a whole social group. The exceptional one should be making the primary effort in the adjustment department. This idea that an adult invitiation represents a desire on the part of the host to cater to, humour, create a tailored experience for the enjoyment of a particular other adult guest is a litte ridiculous - kind of like the host at every gathering is in the Mommy role and every guest is in the birthday child role. Won't work.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 9:55am
So you agree with dj, that it's got to be an entree, not a side salad, when my brother or other vegetarian or vegan comes for dinner?

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 9:56am
I think if he is a guest with exceptional requirements, who knows he has exceptional requirements, particularily if those requirements are by choice, coming to a home that he knows does not share his exceptional requirements, then the onus is on him to find out what you plan to serve, and to offer to bring his own substituions/additions if necessary. If you are throwing a party "for" him, where he is some sort of guest of honour, that would be different. But this idea that every guest needs birthday child guest of honour treatment, is insane.

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