What about eating issues?
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What about eating issues?
| Fri, 06-10-2005 - 2:24pm |
We have debated sleeping issues to death once again....so what about another one of the issues of childhood....eating and/or not eating?
My kids eat just about anything and have a pretty well rounded diet.

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Yes many children continue night wakings for years. Like for the rest of their lives. People wake up for all kinds of reasons. Like to pee. Or in response to an unusual smell or sound or touch - thats a survival instinct. Or in response to stress they took to bed with them. I imagine a 3 yr old, being put to bed by a mom who is litterally terrified that he might wake up because he didn't have a nap - IS going to take enough stress to bed with him, to justify a screaming fit later on.
I don't see alot of cranky kids who need sleep out in public. If an 18 month old is tantruming to stay at the playground, I do give him the benefit of the doubt for knowing exactly what he wants. Just like when I'm out with lots of people, and one adult ends up not getting to go where they really wanted, but have to go where everyone else wanted, that adult might get in a slight tiff. Especially if it was a spousal vote that swayed favour against. I don't assume the adult needs a nap. I assume the adult really did want to see the other movie alot and could really live without this one. I expect both fussers to get over it very quickly. The 18 month old will learn how to get into a slight huff, which just makes people roll their eyes, rather than into a tantrum, which makes people cover their ears. But it takes time. Verbal ability helps. Your children sound like they might take longer to work that out, as it seems they are tantruming still at 3.
I think if my guest needs me to make a meal tailored just for him in order for him to feel at home amongst MY loved ones and MY friends who are also HIS friends most of the time - he needs a Mommy, not a friend. Anyone who feels that a host who doesn't present a special meal just for him, is taking him down a peg, really needs to grow up. I often wonder on this board, how many people actually have - social lives. Because I assure you, putting together just one nice meal, centred around one main entre, is alot of work. Thats why restaurants exist. Tailored per person choice is so hard to achieve within the confines of preparing a meal one plans to eat oneself, that its worth it to most people to pay for the option once in a while. I also wonder what sort of arrogance in the kitchen posters have? Do they actually - cook? Have the actually ever "learned" a new cuisine? I have. It takes time and practice to get things right. I would never venture to prepare a vegan or kosher meal, anymore than I'd assume I could take on chinese or indian for my guests enjoyment, by merely cracking a cook book. I don't even know where to shop. Sourcing new stuff takes time. These other eating strategies aren't based on mere modifications to what I eat. Anyone whose ever had to eat a version of "their" food kindly prepared by those who have no familiarity with "their" food whatsoever, would know how unpleasant that can be.
I wonder what people think is required of a good guest? Seems that pretty much, the idea is that as guest, a person can assume birthday child role. Very egocentric view for an adult audience.
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