What about eating issues?

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What about eating issues?
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Fri, 06-10-2005 - 2:24pm

We have debated sleeping issues to death once again....so what about another one of the issues of childhood....eating and/or not eating?


My kids eat just about anything and have a pretty well rounded diet.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 1:16pm
Do you understand much at all about what is required to meet some of these dietary criteria under discussion?
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Thu, 06-16-2005 - 1:16pm

I couldn't agree with you more wrt those who "have chosen a lifestyle". I have little to no patience there. But the stuff that strikes me as legitimate, I'll try to accommodate without getting too bent out of shape. Like my diabetic sister or my heart patient FIL. I substitute, tweak and adapt a bit. If I did much more, they would feel like I knocked myself out too much, thus defeating the purpose. Which brings me to my next point.

In thinking more about this, I'm starting to decide it's not so much about actual food, but the idea of making a gesture, however small, to a guest, that somewhat acknowledges their food preferences. Even if it's just one dish or one modification of a dish that everyone else is having. Just to be gracious as a host.

When you were overseas for three weeks, choking down food that wasn't your favorite, you were graciously accepting about food that your hosts probably thought was pretty good. Didn't they do anything at all in the refreshments department that to them seemed like going out of their way, even if it didn't really do it for you?

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Thu, 06-16-2005 - 1:23pm

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Good. Now can we have the Kosher Jews talk to all the other groups with dietary limitations and have a little discussion along the lines of "See we've been here on this continent differing in diet criteria from the mainstream for a few hundred years. In a way that makes our options very limitted in terms of what they can normally be expected to prepare in a halfway decent manner. And of course, we don't expect them to remember and understand our rules and regulations, let alone the justification for them. So. With that in mind - you should realize that expecting any non-participating-in-your-food-culture host to be able to come up to speed on your special requirements is really a little much. If sticking to them is important to you, you better accept responsibility for making your particular requirements known - that they may decide if they can manage or not - and you should probalby be offering to brnig your own supplies. Especially if, as it tends to go, no two vegans or vegetarians or people on colesterol diets or diabetics or people following weight watchers programs have the same thing in mind.".

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Thu, 06-16-2005 - 1:25pm
If they are the guest of honor, I will try to make them feel extra special. Thats not why I have people over for dinner, generally speakig. The invitiation should make them feel special. If they need to feel any more special, they have a problem.
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Thu, 06-16-2005 - 1:30pm
Really. I don't think I've ever been invited for dinner and been asked ahead of time for menu suggestions. I assume I'll be enjoyig the hosts cuisine and I've always been correct. Especially on first invites. Unless it was a wedding or something where you had to choose from a couple options. See you must live in a culturally limitted life. If I asked people how they wanted their food, I wouldn't be able to accomodate any of them well, and never more than one of them at a time.
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Thu, 06-16-2005 - 1:31pm
Meaning the vegetarian, let alone vegan version, won't cut it. As a meal.
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Thu, 06-16-2005 - 1:36pm

"Thats not why I have people over for dinner, generally speakig."


So why DO you invite people over for dinner?


"The invitiation should make them feel special."


Why?

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Thu, 06-16-2005 - 1:38pm

Have you no exposure to putting yourself out just a little tiny bit for a guest whose preferences differ from your own?

What's going on with you in this thread is that for some reason you've decided it's your way or the highway when it comes to cooking for company, and you're using the excuse of "Well, since I can't cook authentic Gefilte Fish or Thai Haute Cuisine to show I give a hoot about my guests, I'm not about to try!"

You'll find, once you get outside your own birth culture, that a little goodwill gesture on the table goes a long way, even if you're not an enthusiastic chef.

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Thu, 06-16-2005 - 1:42pm
No. Its not a newlywed thing. Its a thing whereby families enjoy the chance, 2 out of 5 days, to focus on enjoying each others company, as a family. If I were spending most of Mon - Fri with kids and husband, enjoying time with a relaxation and recreational focus, on Sat and Sun I'd be ready for a dose of alone time. And higher purpose. I don't need it with the current arrangement of things.
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Thu, 06-16-2005 - 1:47pm

I agree, the first time ds1 read them he missed quite a bit of the subtle points.

PumpkinAngel

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