What about eating issues?

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What about eating issues?
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Fri, 06-10-2005 - 2:24pm

We have debated sleeping issues to death once again....so what about another one of the issues of childhood....eating and/or not eating?


My kids eat just about anything and have a pretty well rounded diet.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 9:51am

so it would be immature for someone to inquire if their anticipated guests liked salmon?


Gotcha.



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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 9:54am

Did I know your roomate was from Oklahoma? If so, my apologies for forgetting ... if not, how could we not have discussed it? Where, specifically, is he from? If you/he don't mind divulging ...



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Registered: 03-29-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 9:55am

I'm sure your nanny does just that -- doesn't supervise the kids too closely.

My husband is not going to stay home, no matter what (and the question has come up before). He wants and needs to WOHFT, so I suppose the kids' stress involved with that is beside the point. In his line of work, you are either FT or unemployed, and the kids are better off with him being unemployed. When he was disabled for over a year, the kids did enjoy spending more time with him (although they still went to dc when I was working). They did miss him when he went back to work last year. I'd say it was a pretty major transition for them. They also did very poorly when he was hospitalized two years ago -- even DS2, who was seven months old, was soooo happy to see DH again when we visited, that I realized how hard it had been on him.

If I had to work FT or not at all, then I'd work FT, and the stress on the kids would be a secondary concern. Absolutely. Since I seem to be able to manage the PT thing, for a while longer at least, I have noticed that the kids need me around more than if I WOH FT. When I did work 60+ hours per week, earlier this year, it was a complete disaster. DS1 started crying when I dropped him off at school every morning, for one thing. I'm sure we could have worked our way through the transition, but I'm glad we didn't have to.

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Registered: 11-10-2004
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 9:58am

Why do you assume that those who make less money than you aren't saving for retirement? This is what has always bothered me about your POV. You just assume that those of us who do things a little differently are hanging by our fingernails financially.

As an FYI, I personally save 10% gross each month. This goes straight into my 401k. I've already run the numbers -- I will retire with over $1 million dollars. I also save some money each week for my "emergency savings." And I am building a three month cushion in my business savings account. My husband saves some money (not a lot, he's not as disciplined as I) and he regularly adds to DS' college fund.

My retirement, however, will be much different than yours. I plan on working for awhile. I rather enjoy it. And, because my needs already are pretty basic, I won't need to "downscale." So I won't need to drastically change my lifestyle -- I'm already living it. Hence, I don't need as much money. And hence, I don't need to spend 60 hours a week working right now, which gives me the freedom to live my life the way I want to.

I don't exercise with my child. I swim with him -- it's called, "Spending fun time with your child." We also go biking together.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 10:01am
Why are you playing board games for hours and hours if you don't like board games? Let the almost 4 and 6 yr olds play themselves. You do something else. If you want to interact directly with them, find something you all consider fun. I would suggest - get out of the house more often.
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Registered: 10-16-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 10:04am

When do you and your DH exercise?

**** I've never exercised. Not before kids...not after kids. Yes, I know I "should" but I don't! I walk absolutely everywhere I go and walk several miles in a day. That's enough for me. The thing is it's not something that I'm "missing" because I never did it! LOL

My personal hobby that fulfills me is reading and writing and I carve out lots of time to do those activities.

(DH bikes every morning before the kids get up)

Spend time with individual friends?

**** I don't as much as I used to and that's ok with me. Most of them have kids now and have the same schedule that I do. A lot of those family outings we happen to do on weekends are visiting our friends who have kids...we like to hang out in their homes or they in ours and chill out for a day. I get to hang out with my friend, DH with his, and the kids can all play together. Works for me! Right now spending time with my kids is what is most important to *me* personally anyway and I feel like I get enough socialization to fulfill me.

Do volunteer work?

**** We've done occasional events with an organization we are a part of but I don't really spend much time doing volunteer work at this stage in my life. And that is also completely OK with me. I spent many years leading a group for teenagers in the inner city (that's how I met my husband in fact) and devoted many hours to various projects. Right now my schedule is limited.

Each stage in your life has different priorities and different things that consume your time. The life I lead before I had children (leading this group with my husband for example and getting home at 10 or 11 pm every night) is not going to be the same as the life I lead taking care of 2 small children under 5. But that's the beauty of it...I appreciate each stage of my life as it passes.

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 10:06am

My sister the vegetarian faced just exactly this. And- good hostess that she is- she DID feel obligated to provide it. But she also can't bear the thought of cooking meat, it just grosses her out. So she came up with a solution that met both her guest's desire for meat and her desire not to cook it. Can you guess what she did? It's the hallmark of flexible and accomodating hostessing.

What did she do????? She cooked an all-vegetarian meal AND went to a nearby chicken place where she bought a prepared roast chicken. Was that so hard? Not for her. She didn't even make any little huffy noises while doing it.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 10:07am
No. "Expecting" to be served meat, brussels sprouts, or hot fudge sundaes is bound to end in disappointment quite often. But if there are one or two items a guest doesn't eat, it's easy enough to provide one or two items they do eat.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 10:17am

My assumptions about retirement are that I can save way more (the max in my 401(k), plus the max in a IRA) if I WOH than if I SAH.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 10:19am
I understand your POV, but by being efficient with my time (including how I run errands) and making things other than my family priorities, I believe I'm having a well balanced life right now.

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