What about eating issues?

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What about eating issues?
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Fri, 06-10-2005 - 2:24pm

We have debated sleeping issues to death once again....so what about another one of the issues of childhood....eating and/or not eating?


My kids eat just about anything and have a pretty well rounded diet.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 11:44am

What is your deal? What is your point in taking my explanation of how we tend to treat guests who come to dinner at our home and turning it into justification that I must live a culturally (or otherwise) limited life? Huh? I don't get it.

What do you really want to say? And how specifically is my life limited?

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 11:48am

Why don't you share your salary with the board so people don't have to guess and speculate? Would you feel immodest about it?

(You often seem torn between wanting to show us how financially successful you are and remaining modest.)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 11:50am

You know, I find this thread very interesting because I think you and I are not too far away from each other philosphically when it comes to money. I agree with you about the necessity of saving for retirement and college. I agree with you about needing substantial savings in order to feel secure. But I think we have different ideas of what constitutes a high SOL, different ideas of what's fun, and different ideas of what we are willing to sacrifice in the present for the sake of the future.

This is what you said to DJ:

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In short, I *am* willing to work longer and have a lower SOL just to have the extra time and experiences.

But maybe it is also worth noting that I am on track to pay off my mortgage in 8 years, the same year my older child starts college. I have college savings plans in place for both kids. Also, my SOL is already way higher than DH and I ever expected it to be. If we had to, we could cut back quite a bit and still feel pretty comfortable. In 2001-2, we lived on half our current income, and although we felt less secure, our day-to-day lives were still very comfortable.

Dana

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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 11:59am
You seem to be the only one here who "merely provides calories". Everybody else can cook dishes that work well with whichever guests. I sometimes buy new cookbooks if a particular situation calls for it. I bought the Dean Ornish cookbook when cooking for somebody on that diet. And I didn't cower in fear about serving a recipe I'd never cooked before. I just did it. It isn't hard. I've also bought an Armenian cookbook and dabbled there for Armenian guests. Andf you know what? It wasn't hard. And my vegetarian sister who won't cook meat? She bought a roast chicken already prepared for meat-loving guests to go with the vegetarian dishes she cooked. This is no big deal.
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 12:02pm

Very good post filled with astute observations.


I too am willing to work longer and have a lower SOL just to have the extra time and experiences. In the end, it all comes out the same -- work 50 hours a week for 30 years or work for 40 years at 40 hours or less a week. It's all in the range of 80,000 hours over a lifetime.


It is worth noting that while my household income is significantly lower than PNJ's (shoot, her nanny makes more than I do), my kids' college funds are covered. My retirement is covered. I have ample life, health, homeonwer's and auto insurance. What I don't have is a high SOL. Do I want that? Sure. We would love to move into a bigger house, have better short-term savings, etc. But I'm only 34. My kids are young. I've got plenty of time. In order to get that higher SOL *now* I'd have to work a lot more hours and a lot harder. It just isn't worth it to me at this point. We'll get there. And in the meantime we'll enjoy what we have.



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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 12:04pm

"(You often seem torn between wanting to show us how financially successful you are and remaining modest.)"


No, no, you have the corner on that market.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 12:07pm
Ahh, but I don't have some big salary to lord over other people and put them in their place.
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Registered: 10-16-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 12:10pm

I think a lot of it is your expectations as well.

I don't think she should be satisfied with a standard of living different from the one she has now. That's what she's used to and expects. I see people in NYC all the time with lifestyles that are just so out there for me...just not even in the realm of anything I've ever experienced. But that is what is normal for them and to downgrade that would be to lose a lot of pleasure in life.

For me, I have different expectations of what is normal and expected. To downgrade from these would rock my world. My income are such to maintain the lifestyle I am used to just like she is maintaining the lifestyle she is used to.

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 12:11pm
You do well enough with your DH's.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 12:26pm

No, but I might be the only one who ever actually has guests.

The same people are saying "Its rude to ignore someones food preferences, you should prepare with that in mind" and "Well surely you can provide at least one sidedish that would suit any requirement". I'm entirely positive most of the people responding never have guests.

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