What advice would you give to the upcoming generations of mothers?

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What advice would you give to the upcoming generations of mothers?
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Fri, 03-30-2012 - 2:39pm

I just ran across an interesting article from Huffington Post,

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I know more families with SAHPs than single parent homes or two working parent homes so my perspective is limited, Lol.. I do think boys and girls s/b raised alike, And my hope for my kids is that before any ideas of getting married and starting a family are formed each one of them has finished school and started a job/career to build upon, I would also ask that they think long and hard before deciding to get married, Marriage is not easy and I think divorce is an easy exit for some too, A marriage is more than that ceremony on the beach or honeymoon! I don't think that choice to SAH is not much different now for young mothers than it was when I first chose to stay at home, And I see a lot of similarities b/w young moms today and older moms at home, Coincidence or commonalities and similar beliefs b/w generations? I don'tknow if I've answered your questions, I think women and men are on more equal terms than ever before, If mom wants to work after kids she should be allowed to, If she wants to stay at home and she can afford to she should, Same applies to dads. There is not that working stigma like in my mother's generation.

 

 

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jamblessedthree wrote:

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My advice is to not rush into marriage but think long and hard about it.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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My daughter plans to move to Denmark when she is ready to settle down and have kids. I don't think it has occurred to her NOT to have some kind of work in her life, with or without kids.
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In my mother's generation there was no stigma attached to working. Quite the opposite really. My mother was a SAHM and frequently got snubbed at dinner parties and the like. If anything the stigma was attached to NOT working. Hopefully stigmas of either kind are fading.
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Sage advice, although I have to say that I could never hold anyone's head if the person is puking. Couldn't even do it for my kid. But I get what you are saying, and I agree completely about looking at the whole package, including the family (not that I followed this advice very well).
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My husband's family, his sister and mother, was crazy in the mentally ill kind of way. My husband is not. We had to limit their access to our family and we had to take care of his mother financially before she died, but I don't regret marrying someone with a completely dysfunctional family, because he is awesome.
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While my parents didn't meet dh's parents until after we were engaged and planning the wedding, I had met them before dh asked me to marry him, so somewhere around our 3rd date.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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There were no picnics or family events you brought eachother to before you got married?

The puke duty makes me laugh, I never thought of that, I guess we take care of that equally but DH would save doing laundry for the morning if I didn't do it, blech.... When my kid throws up on his sheets b/c he didn't make it to the toilet I start the wash immediately, Even if it's 1 in the morning, Lol.

 

 

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