What advice would you give to the upcoming generations of mothers?

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What advice would you give to the upcoming generations of mothers?
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Fri, 03-30-2012 - 2:39pm

I just ran across an interesting article from Huffington Post,

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Ah, I keep forgetting how you met... There is some of our family we only see/saw at weddings.

 


 


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I used to say "look at how a man treats his mother and you'll see how he'll treat his wife." -- granted, my xh was a cheat .... and he treated his mother well, but i still think there's some truth in that.

And ITA with your last sentence. Spouses need to remember to be friends and lovers - always. This is in addition to being good roommates, good sons/daughters, good employees, good parents, etc. Friends and lovers often gets forgotten.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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I've always told my kids that they need to get enough education and training to be able to support themselves - with our without a spouse, with or without kids. It really should be the responsibility of each and every able-bodied, able-minded adult to financially support themselves.

If one agrees with a spouse/partner later on that financial support will be done by one spouse only, okay ... but be prepared to do it yourself. Always.

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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There were no picnics or family events you brought eachother to before you got married?

The puke duty makes me laugh, I never thought of that, I guess we take care of that equally but DH would save doing laundry for the morning if I didn't do it, blech.... When my kid throws up on his sheets b/c he didn't make it to the toilet I start the wash immediately, Even if it's 1 in the morning, Lol.

 


 


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While my parents didn't meet dh's parents until after we were engaged and planning the wedding, I had met them before dh asked me to marry him, so somewhere around our 3rd date.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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My husband's family, his sister and mother, was crazy in the mentally ill kind of way. My husband is not. We had to limit their access to our family and we had to take care of his mother financially before she died, but I don't regret marrying someone with a completely dysfunctional family, because he is awesome.
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Sage advice, although I have to say that I could never hold anyone's head if the person is puking. Couldn't even do it for my kid. But I get what you are saying, and I agree completely about looking at the whole package, including the family (not that I followed this advice very well).
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In my mother's generation there was no stigma attached to working. Quite the opposite really. My mother was a SAHM and frequently got snubbed at dinner parties and the like. If anything the stigma was attached to NOT working. Hopefully stigmas of either kind are fading.

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